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happy to report BM only filed for CS and not spousal support!!!

ucnjchick77's picture

like i said before i don't care how much they take out as long as it is for the child even though we know she will not use it for the child. i would have flipped if she would get alimony!

why is it so easy for her to go to CS and not even attempt to file for a divorce?

i think she loves the fact that she is married to him. she is psycho!

i was also married with my sons BF for 8 yrs. after we were seperated. i blame the lack of info because i didn't know that i could get legal aid for that. anyways we finally got divorced last year! yay!
hubby couldn't do it because he was making a bit more than legal aid would allow for free representation. and then they only do divorces at a certain time of the year and you have to be lucky to go on that time. like i was.

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Jeans222's picture

Maybe she is thinking if she does not divorce him, she can get certain things and also.. prevent him from marrying again.

Those certain things could be social security benefits later in life ( after 10 years married you automatically can qualify to get half your husbands SS benefit). There are many other things too in the way of pension benefits and maybe they have property?
She is wanting something for sure... maybe not something she gets now, but later.
In states with alimony I beleive too, the benefit is based upon the length of the marriage, so maybe she is hoping for a better settlement, to wait to divorce.
Could also be too that she is still being carried on his health insurance ?
all reasonable reasons she may not want to divorce too quickly.

ucnjchick77's picture

they do not have property together and she was never on his health insurance.
but i agree there has to be something that she wants besides preventing me and him from getting married. it will then bother her that i will have the same last name (she acts like she was born with his last name)she made sure she changed every possible ID to his last name as soon as he told her that he didn't want to be with her. she has also told him that she was not going to change her last name. whatever who cares i have him and she doesn't and it bugs her when we do good. i don't need to marry him to keep him. i've had him for 11 yrs and we have 2 kids together and we don't HAVE to be together but we are so she's just a sad and miserable person.
she had told him that she is not paying for the divorce which i totally understand because i wouldn't either but that doesn't mean that she can't file and just have him pay. believe me i will take out a loan if i have to pay for their divorce lol.

stepmom2one's picture

She doesn't love the fact that she is married to him, just the fact that while she is married to him he can't marry you.

Glad she didn't file for alimony!

imagr8tma's picture

It's a power trip on her part. He left her and basically knows that as long as he is still "legally" married to her - he can't marry you. I don't even think at this point she really cares about anything else.

Hell she has probably moved on as well. So what would she care about you guys relationship - other than to keep him from remarrying.

I would take the tax money when you guys file this year and just divorce her. Period. Be done with it.

********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************