So I haven't been on here much lately because I haven't had to deal with ss much lately. The weekend before TG was dh weekend and they spent the weekend with MIL. The kids and I joined up on Sunday, but 'unfortunately' got there so late that we only saw ss for an hour or so. So sad...not really. So next weekend is ss real bday but dh wanted to celebrate it this weekend. We spent all week arguing about whatto get ss. Dh wants to be Disney dad and buy out toys r us. I don't want to get him a thing but know we prob should. Surely there is a middle ground!

Yesterday dh ordered a cake for ss. He went all out to have ten decorate it a certain way, yadda yadda. He didn't een do that for our ds when ds turned 4 a few months ago. Oh, and ss is turning 13. I suggested a small cake since it is just for us 5 (baby doesn't eatcake yet). He got a cake like if we were having a party. Whatever.

I suggested to take ss out to eat wherever he wanted then afterwards dh could take ss to a movie or something without us for alone time. As I type we are at a kid pizza place. I'm sitting inthe car with my fussy baby as dh and the kids play games. Yuck. But I haven't complained and have put on my fake smile.

As far as the gift goes, dh wantedtoget ss a new phone since his is messed up and 'he needs a phone'. I didn't agree and thought that dinner and a movie was the present. But he wanted to get him something. He asked ss what he wanted. Well, some f you know about my immature ss. He asked for a toy gun like ds4 has. I told dh he should get it for him and be done with his birthday. Dh finally realized how immature ss is and crossed out the phone idea. Then he suggested a $100 gift card to Toys r us. Dyer I laughed at that one dh got mad. Right now we still haven't agreed on what to get him.

On top of all that, the fighting has started between the kids again. This morning the boys aloes dd5 a 'crybaby'. I can't stand namecallig, teasing, bullying. Sobi told all 3 kids whoever is caught namecalling would get a time out. (I was focused more on my younger kiddos). Ss smirked. Well, guess who got a timeout? Ha ha! Yep, ss called my kids 'butthead'. I went to ask who was namecalling. Ss proudly announced he said 'butthead'. So I told him to go to timeout in ds room. (no tv in there, no radio, no computer). Then took his phone away til timeout was over. I know timeout is silly for a 13 year old but because I had jUST said whoever namecalls would get a timeout I felt I had to carry it out. He was in da room repeating to himself, "I'm 12...I'm 12". The thing about it was he was cocky and had an attitude about it. Then while in ds room he was making noises like trying to get our attention. We just ignored him and dh was showering. I thought it was hilarious. For future reference though, any ideas on how to 'punish' a 13 yo? We can't ground him from anything really.

Fortunately we have one more day left. Unfortunately this is our year to have him for Christmas. Meaning next time he comes he'll be with us 10 days...Christmas included. Yuck.