BM caught in a lie
I don't see why BM feels the need to lie over small things.
When she sent SS9 home after a week off school recently she forgot his medication. She said she'd get her DH to send it to us as she was going on a trip with her BD.
Days later, after not receiving the meds we ended up getting the prescription filled (we didn't wait that long knowing she's unreliable).
Yesterday she asked if I'd received SS9's meds in the mail yet. I said no, and she expressed surprise as her DH had sent two parcels out the same day and hers had met her across the country. I asked when she sent them and she said the 10th.
When I checked the meds had arrived, and I looked to see what day they had been sent. Her DH had written the 11 and the post office stamp was for the 11th too, so 4 days after SS9 had come home. Clearly SS9 and his health was not a priority.
I noted in the conversation today that the box said they'd been sent the 11th and she said "oh."
The date isn't that big of a deal really, just illustrates that she isn't trustworthy, which we knew already.
She also told us she hadn't missed giving him any medication, however based on what was left in the bottles and the dates he was visiting and when it was given to us (and the fact we don't miss doses ever as it's ADD meds and it's hard on his system when he misses) she missed 8/30 doses (10 days and one night) ... so almost 30% of his meds.
If she lies about stuff this what else would she lie about?? We've made it clear we'd rather know what he's had so we can be aware of how he's feeling etc, than her not tell us because she thinks it might make her look bad. Maybe just give him the meds then?
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Wow, what a piece of work.
Wow, what a piece of work. Her son's health must NOT be a priority if she's skipped that many days! But at least you get the original prescription bottles from her (?). All we get is a few pills in a ziplock bag for SS11's ADHD :S We have no idea what his dosage should be, if we're getting the right ones, or if they're even FOR ADHD! I keep telling DH to have her give him a copy of SS11's prescription as it would state how many he should have and when. Lately, it seems as if he's on the wrong meds/dose :S
Actually SS9 lives with us.
Actually SS9 lives with us. We send her the prescriptions in their original bottles with the doses clearly outlined on the bottle, we tell her that day and we also FB it to her in a PM so there's NO WAY she doesn't know the dose!!! From now on tho I'm only sending the exact pills for the amount of time he's there so we don't have this happen again!
Also if you know the area
Also if you know the area they live you can call the pharmacist, tell them you're kid is visiting, offer to fax the custody order if need be and then ask for them to send you the dose info so you know it ... or call the doctor's office to ask them to start sending you reports as well so you know what's up. What she's doing is bull. It's important that all parents know. Whenever we have a DR. apt. for SS9, I (SM) tell her the date, time location so she can come if she chooses and also ask if they have tele-health so that if she can't come there's the option for her to do it from her location via that ... I would hate not having any say if it was my kids so I don't ever try to leave her out, no matter how I'm feeling that week/day etc.
That sounds more like
That sounds more like confusion/ mistake than an intentional lie. Esp if her husband was actually the one sending the packages out. Maybe he forgot and just lied and said he did it on the tenth and mailed it the next day rather than hear her bitch.
lac925- just a thought. Pills
lac925- just a thought. Pills have (normally) a code or numbers imprinted into them. Different strengths have a different code as well. If you ever wonder what it is skid is taking & the strength you can look it up online or call a Pharmacist. Just thought Id let you know cause we had to do that once.
OP- its sad they dont give skid his meds on schedule!! That can really mess a kid with ADD! Ugh. The date isnt so much of a deal I guess but all these little things all together really add up.
I know exactly what you mean
I know exactly what you mean about BM getting caught in a lie. before FDH made a court order to say when visitation was going to be for BM, she ran the show. She would just decide when she was going to pick them up how long she was going to keep them. she would claim that it was the kids decision that they wanted to stay with her for multiple days in a row. but she goofed up really bad one time. the kids really wanted to come home ask ed her if she would take them home, FDH was at the same time calling and texting asking when he could come pick up the kids... BM made the mistake of telling the kids their father did not want to come get them did not want them to come home....so guess what?... when the kids came home they ask dad, " why didn't you want to come get us, why didn't you want us?"
FDH pulled out his cell phone and show ed the kids that he texted and he called their mother and she texted back that the kids did not want to come home and they told her they wanted to stay multiple days past when they were supposed to come home.
maybe he went too far showing his text messages between his ex wife and himself about the kids, but BM lying and saying that he did not want his kids,... he just couldn't handle. he felt he had no other option. and he wanted his kids to know that he does care about them and does love them and did want them to come home....
short ly there after he took BM back to court and made a set scheduled court order of visitation of when exactly she was allowed to have the kids and exactly when she had to allow him to pick them up.
BM HAD BEEN IN CONTROL UP TO THAT POINT AND SHE HAD JUST ENOUGH ROPE TO HANG HERSELF