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Crazy's Contempt of Court filing- Truth or Lie?

TrueNorth77's picture

So, DH filed contempt of court against Crazy for constantly ignoring the OFW communication guidelines they have set in place, plus the aggressive PAS she has going with SD13 against both of us, since it has really started to become noticeable. 

In retaliation, she filed COC against him. With competing COC's, the judge decided to appoint a Guardian ad Litem, who we met with yesterday. BUT, DH hadn't been served yet, and we didn't know what was in the COC Crazy filed. So I called the Clerk of Courts last week to see what was happening. The woman who answered knew immediately what was going on when I said my name and asked about Crazy's filing,and kind of sighed and said, "It's just more of the same that it alway has been" (We live in a small town/County, she has become familiar with this shit show), and started rattling off a few of the gems Crazy listed in the filing. She also said the judge didn't want it officially filed because he's hoping the GAL will resolve it- Also, it is NOT A LEGITIMATE CONTEMPT OF COURT FILING!!! You have to show the other person violated a court order, and this was just a laundry list of complaints that were flat-out lies! I honestly don't even know why this is being entertained. She mailed us a copy just so we could see it, and when I opened it my jaw dropped. I have dealt with the psycho for 7-1/2 years- I know how she is. But honestly, this shocked me. Let's see if you can guess which of these are the truth and which are lies. Sorry if this gets long, I'll paraphrase, but she was really on a roll: 

-On Nov 1st, 22 SD told me Truenorth asked her whose motorcycle was at moms house and when SD said she didn't know, Truenorth said is it that guys who she broke up with? This is not ok to question SD about these things. I have also been told repeatedly by our children that Truenorth writes and sends a lot of messages for dad on the OFW website when he goes to sleep pretending to be him. I never know who is actually messaging me. 

First- We live in one of the coldest states- no one was riding a motorcycle in Nov!! She just made up that date to make it sound legit. I actually did ask SD jokingly if her mom bought a motorcycle (She lives on a busy street in town and DH and I saw it in her driveway one day and we both wanted to know whose it was). SD said "Oh no, that's Brad's". I said, Oh I thought they broke up. She said, they're just friends. The end. Like the Judge gives a shit. Also, not contempt. Next, I don't even know DH's password for OFW, and it's face-protected on his phone. I have never once written a message to her, gone on there when he's sleeping, and the kids have not once told her that I have (Like I would be writing her and telling them I'm writing her? How would they even know if I was? She is such an idiot). 

-On Jan 20th, 23 SD was at her dad's house. I received a very scary message from SD around 11pm concerning suicide. I sent SS17 a text (I knew that if I sent DH the message on OFW first, I knew he would not have read it maybe for a day or so). I am very concerned about her at her dad's house because she sits in her room all day everyday after school or on wknds and dad and Truenorth do not interact with her. SD has begged me to please let her stay with me. Being at her dads house in that environment has made SD's depression worse. 

What's funny about this, is that Crazy included about 30 pages printed from OFW- all which show that DH replies to every single message within 2 hours- usually sooner. She proved herself wrong. Also, we interact with SD all the time. 

- On Feb. 6th, 23 SD came home and said Mom I have something to tell you. She said that Truenorth told her that dad would not be able to take anymore vacation days for her appointments because he needed to save his vacation time for a house they had bought in Italy and need to spend the summer fixing it up and your mom needs to handle all your appt's. I let SD know that it wasn't ok for that to be said to her and not to worry because dad and I handle her appt's.

CRAZY IS THE ONE WHO TOLD SD THAT DH WOULDN'T TAKE HER TO APPT'S, NOT ME!!! We put this story in our COC filing, and it was the catalyst that made DH file! Even knowing it was heresay, it was a big incident and we felt needed to be mentioned. SD had come to our house on a Mon and wouldn't talk to DH at all. He made her go for a drive and finally got her to tell him that Crazy had told her DH said in an OFW message that he wouldn't be taking vacation or time off anymore or attending any of SD's appt's. She was so mad at him she wouldn't talk to him. So he actually showed her the OFW messages to prove he never said that. And of course he didn't say this, he still takes her to appt's every single week. She tried to turn the story into ME saying it! Just a completely made up story, and I know SD didn't say this. 

- Originally I agreed that SD, DH, Truenorth and I attend counseling together. But, days before hand, I did call and tell the counselor saying that I felt best if Truenorth, DH, and SD had a separate counseling meeting because there seemed to be a lot of issues with SD being comfortable around Truenorth. 

LIE. She blocked me from coming, after complaining that I never attend appt's, and never said a peep to the counselor about me having a session with DH and SD. The Counselor told DH she emailed and just said "I don't want Truenorth there". We could prove this one by asking the Counselor. 

- On Feb 20th, The one and only time Truenorth took SD to an appt, after Truenorth dropped SD off at school, SD came to my house in tears saying Truenorth yelled at her all the way back to school saying you better shower with that monitor on because it's waterproof and your hygiene is so bad. SD just said ok and kept quiet because Truenorth was yelling. This is just another situation of how it seems when SD is alone with DH's wife, things are not comfortable with SD. 

If you think this is a lie....you would be correct. I took her to an appt (notice how she points out It's the only one I've taken her to? But...why would she WANT me to take SD to appt's if SD is soooo uncomfortable around me?), told her she could shower with the monitor on....SD said no, I said whatever, gave her a bag of cookies I had made and brought for her. Drove the 1 mile to her school and dropped her off. The end. No yelling, no drama, certainly no tears. I am 99% sure SD didn't tell her mom this happened, either. 

When we met with the GAL, she said the courts are not going to take kindly to the PAS- especially the time Crazy made them go through their phones and delete all pics of me. She's seen that a few times before and it did not end well for that parent. However, neither of us want additional custody...not even Crazy, who thinks are so terrible that it makes SD's depression worse. So really, the GAL will just be recommending if she thinks she sees PAS, she said she will probably recommend more therapy for SD and maybe intensive family therapy...and maybe make some recommendations regarding the COC. The next status hearing is on June 22nd. I'm still fuming from this complete BS filing that is all lies about me. It sounds like a troubled child wrote it. I want her to be charged with Contempt for lying in an official document. She is off her rocker, but because all of this is going on, we can't even ask SD about any of it or show her that Crazy said all of this. The whole thing is insanity. 

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justmakingthebest's picture

These are almost all complaints about you... you aren't a part of their order. You ArEn'T tHe PaReNt, remember BM?? This whole thing is a joke. I hope the judge just shuts it down quickly. This woman is obsessed with you!

TrueNorth77's picture

Also, if the worst things she can make up about me are that I "asked about a motorcycle" in her driveway, told SD that DH wouldn't take vacay for her appts, and yelled at SD one time....Have at it. What does she expect to happen from this? The judge is not going to care, and none of them violate a CO, or are valid COC filings. You are supposed to list which section of the CO is being violated for each point you make, and she didn't show that for any of her points, because, well, none of them are violations of the CO!

CastleJJ's picture

Typical HCBM fashion - BM hates you and wants you to do nothing with her children, but then gets mad when you do nothing for her children or can't help BM out when she needs it. These HCBMs want to have their cake and eat it too.

You need to disengage. While we know BM is lying, we don't know how much crap SD is feeding her and trying to stir up drama for attention. I would definitely have BM's ass handed to her in court though if the GAL and judge agree and intervene. Make BM look as stupid as she is. 

WalkOnBy's picture

Oh dear lord - is my left eye twitching right now....The Beast flashbacks, for sure. 

If your judge is anything like the judge DH had, he will not give one flying fig about this when it comes to the claims about you.  

I totally co-sign on disengaging AND handing her ASS to her in court.  DH and I did that many, many times to the Beast and it never got old LOL

TrueNorth77's picture

I dream about it sometimes, the look on her face when she is handed some form of punishment for being a shit person. I imagine it wouldn't get old for me either. I can't imagine this judge would care about what she said about me either. It's all petty nonsense and she sounds like a bitter ex-wife with a low IQ and very poor grammar. The insanity is that even though it's made up, Crazy thinks these claims are outrageous. A Stepmother YELLING at a stepdaughter once?? My stars! *clutches pearls* 

Rags's picture

into "but.... blah, blah, blah" mode.  BM in your blended family world is at that point.  Keep the pressure on.

SpermGrandHag would play her house cleaning business card regularly when she could not get her way with us because we knew the CO backwards, forwards, upside down, and inside out. None of them ever read it.

"The Judge I clean house for says you can't do that."  Ummmm. The RETIRED Judge who is not the presiding Judge over the CO you mean.  

We smacked them in court a couple of times. After that it took just a cease and decist order letter from our Shark attorney on his practice letter head and they crawled back under their rock and stayed there... at least for a while.  

In parallel with that we engaged SS in the facts.  When they would get their noses swatted either by the Judge or our attorney, they would usually try to maniplate SS. When he would swat them with a rolled up copy of the CO, the supplemental county rules, State regulations, or other documented truths (figuratively of course) ... they would pout and cool their jets.

For some reason, even nearly 30 years after the first court battle, they still will occassionally try to manipulate SS-stb31.  He does not tolerate it.  So, pouting and attempts to guilt him is about all they are left with.

Ispofacto's picture

Your BM is mentally challenged, having to court intercede to force compliance / good behavior is like playing a game of whack a mole. Most counties are busy with real child abuse and don't have time to get into the nitty gritty of he said / she said. It's really best to just ignore her stoopid shidt.

Point and laugh. Think of how awful it would be to live inside her deranged head.

 

TrueNorth77's picture

We did that for years. This is extreme, constant harassing messages. It is completely exhausting. Impossible to just ignore and let roll off, because DH's phone is constantly dinging with the OFW messages from her. That part is easy to prove that she's violating the CO- it's all there in B&W on the OFW printouts. Sure we could just deal with it and let her continue, but she is also saying everything to SD that she is saying to DH in these messages, and you can clearly see the PAS. We would rather try to do something and have nothing done than just deal with this crap for the next 4yrs. Since they had the status conference with the judge 3 wks ago, Crazy has not sent 1 single message to DH. Not one! Usually it's every day. She's very capable when threatened or in fear of consequences. 

thinkthrice's picture

And isn't funny how lawyers/ court workers see that the BM is absolutely cheese off the cracker?  Chef's attorney called the Girhippo "certifiable" the last time she pulled a stunt in court. 

TrueNorth77's picture

But they don't do anything, right? The GAL wanted to have Crazy get a psychological eval last time we had her appointed, but apparently it's difficult because of Insurance and who pays and blah blah blah. That's nuts. You're acting crazy, you get a psych eval and you pay for it! The GAL mentioned it again this time, and mentioned having SD's counselor talk to her about how to deal with her mom with her various mental illnesses...

DPW's picture

Besides the motorcycle conversation with SD where I think you were wrong in doing so, all the rest is ramblings and I hope it is seen as such by the system. Good luck with all this. Personally, I would engage and engage hard to win this battle and not disengage. It needs to be dealt with, that I definitely agree with.