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It's Not Worth It

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Submitted by troubledstepdadnc on Sun, 08/04/2013 - 8:31pm

So it's been a while since I posted on here. Not much has changed. I'm basically targeting this blog entry towards any men who might be contemplating marrying a woman who has a child/children from a previous marriage. My advice to you: RUN. Run as far away as you can. Avoid this situation at all costs. It's not worth it. The woman may be the most wonderful woman in the world, but the kid(s) will wreck your relationship. All a step-father is is basically a source of support for the kid(s). You pay for the kid(s) and get very little if anything in return. The kids will always be right and you will always be wrong. Your job is to pay the bills and support her and her kid(s). And when the kid(s) become an adult, you are still a source of support for them whether you like it or not. Like I said, RUN. Find you a woman who has no kids. You'll be much better off.

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Submitted by troubledstepdadnc on Sun, 08/04/2013 - 8:45pm

LOL.

I guess regardless if you're a woman in a relationship with a man with kids or a man in a relationship with a woman with kids, the step-parent winds up getting screwed.

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Submitted by Anne Boleyn on Sun, 08/04/2013 - 9:22pm

Ha. I think I opened FDH's eyes when I said "What other woman on earth is going to sign up for this? And one that has a job making as much money as you, doesn't have kids of her own in the house, etc... Where are you going to find HER and replace your lifestyle that quickly?"

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Submitted by oncechoosetosmile on Sun, 08/04/2013 - 8:43pm

yes, same for women who are dating Disney dads , especially with SD's, run.I am!

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Submitted by realitycheckmom on Sun, 08/04/2013 - 9:16pm

In my situation my FDH had it very easy. My daughter loved him and took to him right away. He was never disrespected and he was most certainly loved. I quit work to take care of his son at his request. He became a Disney Dad and actually accused my then 3yr old of lying and teaching his 9yr old child to hit. No sorry 9yr old not only punched my little girl with a closed fist but left a mark. I just can't see a 3yr old doing that to herself to get the kid, that later was diagnosed with RAD, in trouble. I paid for all groceries even after I quit working I still provided and I used some of my daughter's child support to help with the bills. (I was not reimbursed for the child care I provided to a kid that hurt my child and lied about me) My FDH was given unconditional love from my child and he did not appreciate how good he had it. My daughter listened to him and obeyed him better than she did me. His son was a different story. So not all skids are evil and assholes. If I get involved with someone again I expect her to act the same and maybe when she hits the teen years she might be a brat but I doubt it. I just do not tolerate that crap.