And the crazy trains back in town!!
I haven't posted much in a while as things with BM have been pretty quiet and if I'm honest she has been quite reasonable........until just now.
So we have SS 2 nights a week. Tuesdays and Thursdays. I collect him from school (as DH is at work). SS comes today with a note in his bag. (just in case you haven't read previous blogs this is how BM likes to communicate with DH). The note states that she will not be providing SS for Easter break as she has booked time off work to spend with him. (DH has court ordered holiday time which has no specific dates as his work schedule is crazy so it just states that as and when DH is not at work SS should be with DH). We already sent an email explaining the dates we want SS over Easter as we are going away. She apparently is now refusing those dates and any others we may have had. She also went on a tirade of abuse in the letter basically calling DH a shit father and that she doesn't agree with his parenting blah blah blah. Oh and also if we want to take SS on holiday in future we have to provide her with proof of where we are going and she wants to speak to SS twice a day (none of which is in the court order). This from the woman who takes SS away without even informing us she is doing so and just sends a text saying he won't be coming for visitation. Oh and did I mention this 'woman' also moved SS without telling DH where she was taking him! DH turned up to collect SS to an empty house. But she wants us to provide us with information??? Sorry not going to happen, this is a two way street and your train ain't coming through!!
So we know there will be another letter with SS this weekend (never in an envelope so SS could read them at any time) me and DH have decided not to read anymore she sends as to be honest we are getting bored and a little annoyed with this cycle. How can we show her that we aren't reading the letters anymore without actually ramming it where the sun doesn't shine? We have decided to save up to go back to court which might take a couple of months. We know ignoring her will just ramp up the crazy and to be honest that's good for us going into court. Sorry for the long ramble just really had to vent but if any of you lot can think of a way for us to inform her (without speaking to her) that her letters are being ignored I'd really appreciate it. Aside from taking the letter from SS and sticking it to her windshield I have nothing 
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The thing is we always follow
The thing is we always follow the court order bit are still made out to be the bad guys while she gets away with it each and every time she breaks it. Really just want to make her day as bad as what she makes ours sometimes. I will not lower myself. Just want her to get the idea that we aren't reading her letters anymore.
Not taking him out of the
Not taking him out of the country it's just 45 mins away to our holiday home. We are in the UK so there is no law we have to keep her informed. And like I said she doesn't even tell us she is taking SS away (even when out of the country) she sends a text on visitation days to say he won't be coming. We find out from SS after he's home that they have been away. We have never requested any info from her as like you said it's none of our business and we really don't care provided SS is not being neglected or mistreated. It just amazes me that she shares nothing with us but expects us to prove things to her especially after her behaviour over the years.
What I am personally amazed
What I am personally amazed over is that she is stupid enough to put such a rant IN WRITING. Save every single post it, paper, text, email from her to show that judge. So when she protests that you two are the adversaries you can pop out the proof that she's purposely violating court order.
Perhaps you could hire a singing telegram or skywriting plane to tell her she's an idiot?