OK, so it's a week later. SS12 comes this weekend as usual. On Sunday, H had to woop him because of bad mouthing and not wanting to do his homework - that was a welcome change, simply because SS constantly back talks, gives him dirty looks, etc.

H comes to me after and says, "When he's done with his homework talk to him and tell him that I don't like hitting him and tell him that I love him, etc. etc. etc."

Ok, so I did, but not without first addressing SS12s pain and hurt. Within 30seconds he was crying and hiding his face with his hand. And I told SS, before the end of the day you must tell your dad or me why you wrote what you wrote. You have to tell us what is hurting you because we want to help you, etc. etc. etc.

I went to work yesterday with H and he told me SS is upset with his mother and the way she talks to him and that a friend from school told him what to write. I responded, when my mother found marijuana in my room when I was a teen I always said it belonged to a friend. I said to H, do you believe that SS sat with someone and that person gave him 6 full pages of hate and how to kill them. Of course, H got defensive. I said, what did it say, again he responded I can't remember. I asked, who was it, names??? He said, "I don't need to say." (YEAH RIGHT!!!) I said, why because you think I'm going to judge him differently. His response, "there just no need." OK, YEAH RIGHT AGAIN. I said to him, You and BM are not taking this serious enough." His response, this serious to me but she's the one in control. I responded, If she won't take him to a therapist, then you need to. If you told her you would, do you really believe, she wouldn't let you? His response, "I don't know." (YEAH RIGHT!!!) I said to H, I did research on the wetting of the bed and there are a lot of cases that are connected to molestation. (H side of the family have a history of it.) I said, you need to do what you need to help him. (I don't know what affect my words had on H.)

Later yesterday afternoon H calls and asks if SS can come over, I said "NO". Why he asked, "First she needs to gives us money." He said, "I have extra money to give you." I said, "SS needs to work this out with her. He can't come over everytime he has a problem over there." Well SS came over, this wkend from Friday - Tuesday am -- THAT'S TOO MUCH.

:sick: :barf:Vent Explosion: We are so tight with money that we need to take lunch to work everyday and when SS comes there's not enough to take to lunch because he eats double portions. (I would feed the world if I could but not when I can't eat myself.) Our grocery bill is $500.00 a month without exaggeration. I can't afford to do my hair, nails or buy the clothes I used to because of the added expenses we have. Forget saving and let's not talk about the mountain of debt.

TOO MUCH IS TOO MUCH!!!