I have a few complaints, but being a step mom for me is going ok right now. Plus my husband makes sure that he can afford the child support, so although it is annoying that he pays (especially right now as we have SD the majority of the time) I don't go without or worry about bills being paid so most of the time it doesn't bother me. Not trying to laud it over you, just to remind you that not all step situations are completely toxic. Plus having a mom who understands and can relate to her will help your daughter immensely should she end up being a step mom too.

Frankly I think my daughter and my skids witnessing the messed up aspects of life post divorce has made them less likely to choose it, not more. My daughter is 18 we have a good relationship and she's said as much. Although step families are on the rise statistically you've got to use the statistics to work in your favor. That means getting your daughter effective birth control Before she becomes sexually active - I got mine an IUD at 15 best decision I ever made. And pushing her academically into higher education. I've also told her that if she waits too long to marry, say past her early 30s, she's increasing the chances of only having men is her dating pool who already have kids. But also not to marry too young. Nothing is 100 percent but I try to educate her so she doesn't make my mistakes.

I know my biodaughter will not because she is not a kid person to begin with. She's been happily married over 11 years with no children of her own (possibly the key to a happy marriage?) I have Grandpets. That is all.