I'm about to blow up on dh's ass tonight
He had the nerve to yell at dds about their rooms (first thing in the morning while they are still rubbing the sleep or of their eyes) because their beds weren't made they each have a book on the floor and their clothes are on the floor.
They just woke up, so ya their beds weren't made. The books on their floor are the books they read last night and yes they left their clothes on the floor from yesterday when they changed into their pajamas.
Meanwhile sd is doing her extended stint at bm's house and we won't see her until this weekend (is been 2 weeks since she's been here) her room is a disaster, she has clothes, toys, and books everywhere. She's got crap all over her floor. She's also got clothes, stuffed animals and books shoved between her bed and the wall. It's attacked so high you can see it sticking out over the bed... yes the stack of her shit beside her bed that's she's trying to hide is towering over the bed itself.
The difference in my opinion is that dds haven't had a chance to get to their rooms yet today. Sd's room has been this way for 2 weeks. DDs' rooms have been clean everyday (except for first thing in the morning).
I'm not upset with sd for this, it's not her fault dh is an ass. I'm angry with dh, I'm angry at him because #1 is none of his god damned business. If he was worried about their rooms he should call up sd and bitch at her for ALWAYS leaving her room a mess!
Please realize that me posting about this is not me nit picking sd, I could care less what her room looks like, but I'm always ontop of dds cleaning up their room after they've eaten breakfast and brushed their teeth and gotten dressed for the day. Even when sd is here I say it so that all 3 girls hear me. I say, "OK girls, don't forget to clean up your room." And then I ask a little later if they cleaned up all their clothes, books and toys, sometimes sd will "go check" which I find hilarious, don't you know if you cleaned your room? Guess not. Oh well.
But tonight I am going to kick dh's ass, maybe metaphorically, maybe not.
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Maybe it's me, I know I've
Maybe it's me, I know I've got aunt flow visiting... but I still don't think that he should be bitching at my kids. I've already told him to leave my kids the fuck alone. He did the shit to my youngest dd that I posted about yesterday, and then I had to find out about it from my dd, she told me when I asked about the time (to confirm that was the time she agreed to. I gave her 2 times that would work for me, and she chose 1). Them he pulls this today.
The reason I'm waiting for tonight is that I don't want my kids to see me and dh fight. So when they go to bed I'm going to bring it up to dh, and not in a nice way. I'm going to completely flip my lid on him
WTF If I were you I'd ask
WTF If I were you I'd ask your DH when he plans to yell at SD about her pigsty of a room since he felt the need to yell at your DDs over one book and yesterday's clothes.
Please tell me that you
Please tell me that you marched his big dumb ass over to SD's room and pointed out the squalor and told him to shove his concerns with your BDs room up that big dumb ass of his?
He is instigating in order to
He is instigating in order to re-establish his control. Him and his daughter are king and queen and can do whatever they want. And you and your daughters better STFU and smile while doing it.
Also, yelling at a kid that isn't even fully awake and out of bed is child abuse. It is emotional abuse of a child.
And thirdly, his daughters room is a complete pigsty and he dares......
Changing the party date by going through your daughter, you are in the situation, but I promise you changing a party date with out asking that child's mother is seriously out of line
This is end games type stuff. He is basically saying he is in control and he will do whatever he wants, so either take it and have you and your daughters treated like shit any way he and his daughter see fit.
Or take a stand and tell him you will absolutely not tolerate it. See how it plays out
Id throw everything out of
Id throw everything out of place in SD's room away. Then look at DH doe eyed... "I was just trying to help you seemed so stressed when you yelled at the girls about their rooms and SD wasn't here.."