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So Looks Like SD will be BARELY Graduating HS and NO Mention of College. . .

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 05/30/2017 - 11:20am

SD turned 18 last November and is finishing up her last year of High School next month.
NO mention of college--she absolutely DETESTS school. The Girhippo has had a "no rules/school optional" policy for her entire school year--SD just gives up when something isn't fantastically fun to do.

I can't off hand think of a major in college that would be nothing but fun. Of course CS is supposed to continue till 21 here unless she has no intent of going to college and is working full time.

No mention of working full time either, so basically limbo. She'll work a part-time summer job and do lots of TV watching whilst CS continues.

Thank GOD for my fauxbook account so I can keep an eye on things. The SECOND she announces she's moving out to live with friends or has a full time job, the court papers will be filed for emancipation!!!

Then it will be down to one underachiever, YSS 14.5. The Gir has already drawn up papers to get him labeled as "learning disabled--other."

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 05/30/2017 - 11:36am

DH and I met up with my friends Saturday night and it was so embarrassing when they would ask him what YSD's plans were since she just graduated and he would just say "She's 8 months pregnant."

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 05/30/2017 - 12:10pm

thank the lord that CS doesn't go past HS graduation/18 in your area or you'd be paying extra CS for the GSD. :sick:

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 05/30/2017 - 12:43pm

Hey girl, I just went and double checked our states guidelines about "emancipation" and it said that if child turns 18 and refuses to see non custodial parent, that CS can be stopped because child would be considered emancipated. So I would say that your SD meets that criteria. I'd be pushing your DH to file ASAP!

"In addition to economic independence, a child will be deemed to be emancipated if they are of employable age and in full possession of their faculties who voluntarily and without cause abandon their home, against the will of their parents and for the purpose of avoiding parental control. Similarly, if a child voluntarily refuses all contact and visitation with the non-custodial parent they will be considered emancipated."

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 05/30/2017 - 7:21pm

SD has been refusing for 9 years now. Stood Chef up 3 times early 2012 during a failed reunification attempt with counselors assisting. Then again, you hear about visitation slowing down or ceasing in the teen years and that constructive emancipation by conduct is almost impossible to prove.

That would be great if it applied to YSS 14.5 as well. I have documented every nasty post toward Chef on FB as well. I told Chef that an attorney consultation would be appropriate sometime in July or August.

I will certainly bring that up!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 05/31/2017 - 8:57am

Thanks Daize, will give it a whirl but as you know here in UPSTATE ny, they have yet to catch on to such things as PAS and CEBC. Upstate is so financially strapped that they rely heavily on the fed-dollars-for-highest amount-of-CS-collected "incentive/commission."

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Wed, 05/31/2017 - 4:47pm

DH might need to show attempts to contact and see her. 2012 was 5 years ago. He needs to document every contact he made during those 9 years. They could say he never initiated visitation, he will be paying until she is 21. Bet you BM will say he never asked to see the kids

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 06/01/2017 - 10:41am

Frankly it might be worth it to pay through 21 if entitlement sessions are going to start up again. The skids behavior is horrible and rotten to the core. There is no way I want to go through the guilty/disney daddy phase again. It would only mean conflict because Chef has little tolerance now for bratty behavior especially in the teenage years. Chef is a coochie coo type guy and only seems to allow horrid behavior in young children (I don't and therein lies the conflict). The two remaining mid-late teen skids are so entitled, feral and lazy it's unreal thanks to BFF "parenting" by the girhippo.