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Five More Months Until Reverse Ransom Ends

thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Tue, 08/01/2023 - 7:56pm

After 20 years--two decades!   And I think I saw the clock tick BACKWARDS!!

And I am busier than ever trying to get the 2nd to last acquisition up and running so time SHOULD fly by!

Nope.

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SteppedOut's picture

Submitted by SteppedOut on Tue, 08/01/2023 - 9:19pm

I'm betting chef gets real stingy with "his" money once child support stops.

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:05am

I seriously would love to send you a Celebration Basket of some sort when this happens for you! Y'all deserve the biggest bestest most expensive getaway known to mankind for surviving the hellacious crap evil ex has put y'all through and gotten away with! It boils my blood. 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 11:08am

I do think we are going to have a celebration trip the first month of no CS! LOL

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 9:10am

The light at the end of the tunnel. At least yours are PASd so no toxic steps coming out of the woodworks asking for "adult support"

OSS21 just called his dad and screamed at him and cussed him out because he needs to "get him a job, send him money and help him". This after my husband sends him money on cashapp every week for years and buys him clothes, shoes and has gotten him several jobs that he blew....Adult Support starts when child support ends. Good thing OSS21 told his father not to call him anymore if he cannot get him a job that fits within his requirements...my husband cried after receiving that text so it must have hurt him to feel used for money and help

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 9:19am

The hell??? I can't even imagine the audacity coming out of his mouth! 

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 9:17pm

Thats what I thought but he has always been like that. I am just seeing my husband getting a taste of the medicine we have all been served by OSS21 all these years and pointing it out hoping the parents would wake up

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Submitted by ICanMakeIt on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:03am

Thats so abusive - the audactiy and entitlement is disgusting. Hugs! Watching that would have broken my heart. 

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 9:20pm

I have rarely ever seen my husband cry. In all the few times he cried, it was due to OSD23 and OSS21...The toxic relationship with BM1 trickled down to the kids. According to OSS21, he was "abandoned" by his father... Its strange because he lived with us for 2.5 years and had visitation before and after. Lived again with us when he was an adult. Got nothing but support from his father even when he was disrespectful or partaking in stupid criminal activity....Now my husband is reaping the seeds he sowed by coddling the man child

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:05am

you alls going on a  guilt trip. Isnt it super funny how these entitled skids like to rain holy heck down on their parents, who dutifully scoop up the chit they are given as ;ove crumbs, and finally hit the end and wonder how they got there? 

He sounds a bit like feral forger sd24. She likes to guilt trip husband about their "lack of relationship" yet does nothing to get back to his requests for time.

We are on the 9th month. Only 9 more payments on the car that wont run.

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 11:21am

That was given to me back towards the beginning of my journey. I was whining about husband paying child support in addition to his regular supporting of her on our time, plus the money I spent on skid. lololol. Now I spend zero.

I was told by steptalkers that being sore about it was like drinking poison and expecting someone else to get sick.

Child support was described as like "buying a car, that crashes right after you drive it off the lot, but you still have to make payments on it..." that "its like any other bill you have to pay, like a phone bill".

No reason for me to be sore - husband pays his share of everything plus he did all back to school shopping in addition to paying for skid. But Im still happy for him when child support ends...

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 1:01pm

SM is the breadwinner and is either paying CS directly or indirectly. 

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:01pm

EXACTLY! He got the results of his overly permissive parenting and coddling. BM1 never gets blamed for anything although she pulls the strings and OSS21 likes to play the victim. Everyone is against him and "abandoned him' because dad wont give him a job after he quit several times and had angry outbursts at several other jobs as well....I will say at least your husband put some boundaries to FF24....Mine just told me earlier when I said to put boundaries "but he is my son, i love him!"....He left a vm asking to talk and that he stops disrepecting him lol....sad but he is in for life with his children. I am definitely seeing the financials going to hell with OSS21 who refuses to get a job and wants cashapps every week and no bills....My husband will continue to turn a blind eye until he gets shocked into seeing the truth of his own child

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:08pm

We hear the same talking pts that BM1 used to shout with my husband now parrotted by OSD23 and OSS21. We offered to show court docs with factual evidence of support and custody but the papers were thrown in our faces. OSS21 said that he "does not need to see anything because he already knows what his mom is saying and thats the truth"

Cant win with these children. A real case of car payment on a non driveable vehicle lol

thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 1:00pm

You never know if and when they will return.   It's like Damocles sword hanging over your head.

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:02pm

When I tell you its for life when it comes to money and drama....Its forever. Thank your angels that yours are PASd lool

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 1:03pm

That's amazing! Do you have your countdown app set up?? I have mine going for when each skid will leave for college. Lol. No more CS deserves a countdown!

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 2:09pm

The one I use is just called "Countdown", and it's free. You get to pick your fun background pics for each countdown timer you have going- I have one til SS moves out next summer and then one for when SD (if all goes to plan) moves out in 4yrs. You can of course use it for other things but mine is solely for skid-launching. Blum 3

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 2:25pm

I have Powersulks visitation ends. 

Im going to do another. this one just does days right? Like with an upgrade can I get weeks?

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 10:03pm

I use the Countdown app for visitation....3 more years and some change before the last step turns 18.....it can be a bit depressing to look at the number lol

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Submitted by Shieldmaiden on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 4:37pm

The last SD will graduate in 2024. Then NO MORE CHILD SUPPORT! Yay!

We are so happy to never talk to BM again. 

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 5:16pm

Same here. We currently rarely talk to BM...she's on "serious" boyfriend 4 or 5 since getting divorced (from ExH #2) less than two years ago, so she keeps quiet and DH now ignores her for the most part when she goes pop her head up. 

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Submitted by strugglingSM on Wed, 08/02/2023 - 5:14pm

We have 10 more months...almost to the single digits. I'm sure BM will try to come back to get money for college, but one skid has already announced that when he graduates he's moving out with friends and getting a job or joining the military. The other skid still tells DH he's going to college, but he is not "college ready" and will not get a sports scholarship (he also tells DH that even though he is middling at best at his sport and no schools are currently talking to him, which they would be, if they wanted to recruit him). BM makes more than what DH and I make combined (and over twice what she claimed as her income the last time DH modified child support) and skids have told us repeatedly that BM's "rich" parents have said they will pay for college for both of them, so they can cover the costs. I've still told DH to save up for a lawyer. The only benefit to us is that in our state, any college money from the NCP goes directly to the college, which removes some of the incentive for BM to try to continue to get money.