Update to Dear DH
When we last left The Stepmonster, she threatened to email BM herself if DH did not grow some balls and make sure we can have his children until Christmas Eve morning. Since then, DH sent BM a text message (because heaven forbid he procreate with her and then be forced to speak to her) with this request.
Her reply? "Have plans."
According to DH, its okay. We will just do Christmas this Sunday before we take them back. Apparently he thinks Christmas just magically happens or that elves come and decorate the house and make dinner and wrap gifts. I don't know why its so important to me that we have a nice family Christmas, but it is. Maybe because I am pregnant and I want my baby to have a nice Christmas next year and this is like my practice Christmas. Anyway, I told DH that since he obviously doesn't care about giving his kids a nice holiday, I won't either. I won't wrap, I won't make cookies, I won't help them make gifts. His response? "Okay." I'm married to the Grinch.
The CO states that he gets them every other holiday. Well BM has had them for every holiday since the divorce 5 years ago because DH's family doesn't celebrate crap and he wasn't remarried until this year so he never enforced it. What really annoys me is that we get them EOWe. On the weekends they are not with us, BM just dumps them with her parents so she can just continue living her kid-free weekends. She spends zero time with them. Even during the week she has a nanny (paid for by CS of course) look after them until 6 or 7 (she's a teacher), and then comes home and drinks until she passes out. But all of a sudden she "has plans"? I am thinking her plans involve driving her kids to her parents and then spending the week with her BF so she won't be available to pick them up later in the week since I know for sure she cannot stand being with her children for any extended period of time. As their father he has the right of first refusal, not her parents. But if he doesn't give a damn, I guess I won't either. Happy freakin' Holidays.
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Is he a closet Jehovahs
Is he a closet Jehovahs Witness?
That would be an acceptable
That would be an acceptable excuse for his actions, but I think he just never had good holidays. His mother never even really celebrated Thanksgiving with them because she isn't from the US so when we went to my parents' for Thanksgiving he was so amazed that it was like how people have Thanksgiving in the movies - with a turkey and sides and family all sitting breaking bread together. My DH is broken.
I would ingore him. Just
I would ingore him. Just start planning now your baby's first christmas...Do you want to do a christmas dinner with your side of the family? Oh my family does a Christmas Breakfast that is always fun and it is different.
Let your SO realize next year what he has been missing out with SD. It is his loss, you cant force him to want to experience things with his daughter maybe next year he will see what he is missing.