I'm about 99% sure my SD9 has some variation of the Electra complex. It makes perfect sense now. I really noticed it this past weekend.

The skids were adamant on watching scary movies so DH and I made a camp area in the living room so that they wouldn't be scared at night. The plan was for DH and I to share the couch, SD11 to sleep on the love seat and SD9 to take the chaise lounge. Well the chaise lounge was not close enough to Daddy so SD9 made her way to the floor right below the couch. Fine whatever. After everyone fell asleep I got up and went to the bed. I'm expecting and get back aches fairly easily. In the morning SD9 discovers I left the apparent coveted spot next to her daddy and complains all morning that she had to sleep on the floor when she could have slept with her daddy.

The next night, the skids want to camp out again. While they are watching movies, I decide to change SD4's earrings out while she slept since we bought her some new ones but she hates people touching her ears. I come back and see SD has reclaimed her seat next to daddy complete with splaying her legs all over him. I send her back to her spot and sit next to my husband. Same thing happens, everyone falls asleep and I go to my bed. In the morning I find SD9 playing little spoon and DH playing big spoon on the couch. Then she looks at me and says "he's MY daddy." Oh hell no. I tell DH I'm going to start breakfast and he gets up to help. SD9 can't stand to see us doing anything, even cooking, together and starts shouting "I wanna help daddy!". Fine. Help your daddy. I go to my room to read and write a ST post.

DH comes to check on me and I tell him how weird it is for me to see her sitting on his lap, spooning with him, etc. He appears to have an epiphany and agrees that it is a bit strange. The rest of the day I can see him getting kind of weirded out when SD tries to sit in his lap, wedge herself between us, call her daddy to push her on the swing (despite the fact that her sisters are managing just fine), LAYS IN HIS LAP at a restaurant during lunch, and finally asks him for an old shirt that he's worn and that smells like him to take back to her mom's.

I thought it was all in my head but seeing DH notice it made it more real. Now that he has acknowledged her odd behavior though he wants to correct it but we don't know how. Anyone else have this issue? I'm thankful he recognizes its a problem but if we don't figure out how to fix it it will just continue to be a strain on our relationship.