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Sweet T's picture

Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 12:55pm

Do u think if one parent communicates information to one parent the other should acknowledge it.

 

Our son has baseball camp this week that I paid for and is not on exes visitation time. He knows that the camp is this week...and being a huge baseball fan himself should be so excited for our son. I texted that he might beat me to my house on.friday because I am picking son up after work and it is further from my work place than from work to home. If traffic is bad I might be a few minutes late. No response... I feel that is rude... but that is me.

 

We rarely speak which works for me.

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Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 1:05pm

He is what he is, Sweet T. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear, and you can't expect courteous behavior from your personality - disordered ex. 

All you can do is cover your...bases with your own communications (which you do), and focus on your own happiness while he marinates in his own disgruntled misery.

Sweet T's picture

Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 1:20pm

Thanks Julie...i am all about CYA with him. I worked out extra time over the summer with him and he screwed some of that up. Other than threatening me once this summer with court, sending a nasty email to all the parents on our sons baseball team, and lying to our son that when he is 12 our divorce decree says he gets to chose where he wants to live...it doesn't nor does our state...the summer has been quiet.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 1:59pm

Omg I hate that. My ex loves to throw out shitty comments. I rarely respond because then it is a passing match but it sucks letting someone say something nasty and in true and have it hanging out there. 

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 2:15pm

Meh - like Julie said, he is who he is and you're not going to change that.

Just keep on doing what you're doing - document like hell and then move along Smile

Sweet T's picture

Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 2:44pm

You ladies are right  :). 7 more years to freedom.

 

I can't wait to pick up the boy and hear how camp went. This is the kids dream.... my husband is jealous. In January they have an adult camp... I told him to ask his mom to send him.

 

My boy earned this by getting himself on and off to school like a champ, helping out this summer and acting like a man :).

 

I was at a meeting this week talking with the moms of bs friends.  Totally shocked by how little they expect of their kids.

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Submitted by Areyou on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 4:21pm

You gave him information. He doesn’t need to respond. He doesn’t owe you that. He’s neither friend nor family. Being upset about it means you still care. You’re holding him to a standard that exhibits poor boundaries on your part.

Sweet T's picture

Submitted by Sweet T on Mon, 08/20/2018 - 6:16pm

Thank God he is neither friend or family. I just think it is rude to not acknowledge u received a message. Not sure how that is poor boundaries. 

 

On the flip side camp was fun except for the fact the kid has grown so much this summer his cleats were too small. We had to buy a new pair on the way home. Omg this summer he grew so much it is crazy. We are almost the same height ..

s-kill me's picture

Submitted by s-kill me on Tue, 08/21/2018 - 4:21pm

I'm now second guessing myself because we NEVER reply to texts unless it warrants a response.  No "ok" texts or emails from us!

Sweet T's picture

Submitted by Sweet T on Thu, 08/30/2018 - 12:27am

Let me ask you this... do you just not do it with her or everyone?  I generally do it with everyone because I view it as I revived your message and I am acknowledging it.

 

Maybe I am wrong...or old.