Argh!! Feeling stressed
So tonight is supposed to be the night where we are trying our experiment where I am letting crazy ex come and take BS almost 8 from 6 to 8pm. He only agreed to every other weekend when we divorced but has hounded me like crazy for more time even though he lives 45 minutes away in no traffic and works till 5pm. He had already asked me to please have him fed becase he would be there so late. Well on on Tuesday he never responded to my last email on something and he never answered BS's court ordered phone calls or returned his messages. I figured the ball was in his court we did our part. BM1 has not recieved a response to her email yesterday either ( 2 days w/o responding to either of us)
I don't have great hope for this as I know he will screw it up and be late returning BS and then I am done with it or if he is nasty to me. He can haul my ass back to court then. I do find it odd that he has not made his presence known to any of us.
My son isn't so excited about this tonight and says he only told dad he wanted to when he told him ( he hounded me while he had BS and then told him about it) because he didn't want dad to be upset. To be honest I am not sure if he isn't just saying that to me as he knows I dread any contact with his dad ( as does he. He has begged me not to show his dad his report card because he is afraid he will yell at him...not a bad report card just some room for improvement on things we are working on)
I told him that he doesn't have to keep things from me or worry about hurting my feelings to just be honest about what he wants. Then we switch the subject to the sleep over we are having tomorrow night with his buddy.
So big question is will he show or not????
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crap, he has not been
crap, he has not been abducted by aliens but only not responding to something he didn't care for. I just got this email.
Bonus! Because I left home extra early to beat the traffic this morning and my current workload is somewhat light today (knock on wood), I’m probably going to leave here at 4:30pm and head up to get BS! Let’s hope traffic is a little lighter on a Thursday than it usually is on Fridays (YUCK!).
Wow, so he's pretending to be
Wow, so he's pretending to be all friendly now? ugh. At least maybe the good mood will stay and BS will have a decent visit with him instead of him being a miserable jerk.
RIght now, but that can
RIght now, but that can change...it is like a light switch. He actually hinted at having dinner with us....not happening.
Sucky.
Sucky.
Well, sucks for you having to
Well, sucks for you having to deal with him, but... yay for your BS, right? I have to think his Dad just not showing up would have been worse for him. Hopefully your ex behaves himself tonight and your BS has a good time with his Dad.
I hope so, he is hit or miss.
I hope so, he is hit or miss. Nothing about not returning BS's calls. I would/should call him out on it but I would like him to remain in a good mood.
I have great guilt for giving my son a loonatic for a dad :(.
I only email or text with
I only email or text with him. As to the call that was not what we were emailing about, it was his wanting to pick up BS early for July 4th holiday. He apparently has never read the decree and just tells me what he wants. I was okay with the Thursday night verses Friday am pick up BUT was pointing out to him what the decree says. He knew BS was going to call and he left his dad two messages to call him back and he never did. That to me is pretty shitty to do to a almost 8 year old boy. I will never say anything about it to him as there is no point, he can dig his grave with my son the way he has with his older kids.
Ex is excited about it, BS not as much. I am always emotionless with him.
As to the lateness he is habitially late and has no regard for timeliness. He used on purpose wait until 5 minutes before my skids had to be home to return them. He thinks nothing of being 15 minutes late and doesn't care. It is this blatent disregard that will make me a stickler because if he gets one inch he will run with it and take a mile and then some.
I appreciate your outside views, that is the only reason I am doing this is so that I am doing what is best for my son. However because he is mentally ill and a master manipulater it isn't like dealing with a regular dad.
Another sad thing is I have
Another sad thing is I have to force BS to call his dad. He doesn't enjoy the calls and so much of it is because his father starts out with t so tell me what you know... you get no where with that. You need to ask specific questions about his day.
It is hell sending him there,
It is hell sending him there, you have no idea. This will curl your toes. In November BS gotthe stomach flu threw up in his and SS15's bed, DH left SS15 to sleep in it and took BS into his bed witha barf bucket. He texted me about 10 times that BS wanted to come home, so when I see the texts I drive the 45 minutes away and get him and bring him home. He left the puked on sheets ( hamburger gravy was served for dinner so it was nasty) in a heap for 3 weeks and had to throw them away along with BS's jammies. Fast forwad to April when the idiot moved and made the skids and our 7 year old move him, BS finds the unemptied barf bucket under exes bed all dried up. Ex made the kids throw it away.
But he is a good dad....in his own head.
And I can't say anything to
And I can't say anything to him about what I know goes on there because he takes it out on the kids.
I got pissed because he was sleeping again when BS was there ( napping for hours while my 7 year old is taking care of himself) and when I said something he got pissed quized the kids who all denied telling me and then said I was a crazy liar o my child and my step sons and forbid them to have anything to do with me again.
So now bS has begged me to never say anything to his dad again.
The man ruined 2 families, his older kids think he is a joke and only go there because they have to. He is unpredicable and nasty when confronted and all I can do is send my son to his dads with a cell phone so he can text me if he has an emergency.
And he thinks he deserves
And he thinks he deserves more time....
Sad thing is because he lies his GF could be on here bitching to everyone what a great dad he is and what a crazy bitch I am have seen both sides, I have been fed the lies and now I am the one who is lied about.