You are here

Decision time

superstar's picture

Submitted by superstar on Mon, 10/01/2012 - 2:39am

My SO and I were chatting last night about going on a ski holiday in February. Sounds great doesn't it? Well, it did untill he said he wants to take the bratty skids with us. This has put me in a very difficult possition-

On the one hand I evidently want to go away with him as we both love traveling and spending time together doing different things and spending time together. BUT I find it hard to be in the same room as his skids for 10 minutes, let alone 10 days! Should I let the skids stop me from having a good Time, or stop me from spending time with my partner? Another problem is that money is a little tight at the moment, mostly due to the amount of liability my SO has to pay to The good for nothing BM, so if I dont go on this holiday, it will almost Deffinately be a long time till we can afford to go away abroad again. (just for the record , my hard earned money will not be going toward taking the skids skiing , weather I go or not!)

Comments

Pinki3663's picture

Submitted by Pinki3663 on Mon, 10/01/2012 - 4:11am

HAHA! Absolutely freaking not! What's wrong with a romantic get away with your husband? Skids have two homes which usually means 2 sets of holidays, 2 birthdays, 2 vacations. I think it would be just fine for the two of you to have some alone time. The Skids won't die. Why subject yourself to that. You will dread your coming vacation, instead of being excited about it. Then when you are finally there you will probably do anything to stay away from them..so if you have no choice in the Skids going you might as well have your own vacation.

Kes's picture

Submitted by Kes on Mon, 10/01/2012 - 4:55am

I have been with my DH for 10 years, and I have NEVER gone on holiday with the SKIDs. It just would not be a holiday for me - more like purgatory.
Most years he takes them away on his own for a few days or a week in summer - I do not go with, prefering to stay home with the dog. DH and I have a modest week's holiday, never go abroad, some other time in the year.
Could you not have a short break with your SO, but without the SKIDs, some other time?

almost new mom's picture

Submitted by almost new mom on Mon, 10/01/2012 - 8:58am

i am never going on another vacation with my SS again...we went to the beach this summer and it was a nightmare for an entire week..so i have decided my DH can take him and they can go alone...I took one week off this summer and i was ready to strangle both of them...so absolutely not...just you and your husband is the way to go on that one or i promise if you cant stand them for ten minutes it will be a living hell on vacation with them for that long...i spend a few hours with them on the weeks we have his son and sometimes dinner...for two years now..because i wont tolerate the behaviour and my DH is fine with it..so they wont change i will and enjoy the time i have off with my husband and no step child...PERIOD...

superstar's picture

Submitted by superstar on Tue, 10/02/2012 - 5:47pm

I rather jumped to conclusions that it was just going to be the two of us, before he even got a Chance to mention the skids. I probably won't go which is a shame, and will probably make me resent the skids more, but its either that or almost strangling them after day one!.

Skiing isn't too expensive. I live in the UK, so it's the Swiss or French alpes which are a lot less costly!

Thanks for the help