So, SS17 has flared up.....yet again....BM calling and messaging last night to sort SS17 out because he has kicked off again.....when will they see the light with this skid?

Ill explain what he does....he goes out with his "gangster trippin" (English piss take term for kids who think they are in gangs!)...his nutter GF....smokes pot, snorts cocaine and basically doesn't give a toss.....then something happens, he has an argument with GF, or a bicker with a mate, or something silly and NORMAL....he then starts to cry IN FRONT OF THESE PEOPLE...then rings daddy to say he "CBA anymore, not talking to anyone" etc etc (and yes you read right...he is 17!).....Now, daddy and BM think " oh poor SS17, what a shame" and daddy goes running cos BM is far too busy doing nothing....daddy talks to SS17, calms him down, tells him to man up or walk away......and then asks SS17 where he wants to be dropped off...and waddya know...he gets dropped of with GF and mates he just cried in front of and called for his daddy to come get him......and SS17 wonders why they tale the piss out of him!?????

Last night however, daddy ignored the messages and the calls.....sat down and said "no stressedstep, i'm not dealing with this s*it no more, BM can can do it"......PROUD PROUD moment for me.....don't know how long it will last.

Now Im not interested in SS17, couldn't care less if he disappeared, I dislike him and his attitude....but OH tried to engage a conversation re SS17 last night. Normally I just make little noises to show Im acknowledging him, but I could tell OH really needed someone to talk to, so I engaged. The relief on his face was immense, and I know he is stuck in the middle with SS17, but he still needs to see s*it for what it is.

I told him last night that at the end of the day, SS17 needs to see this stuff for himself, he needs to see what the drugs are doing to him, what his so called GF and so called mates are like and what they are doing to him. OH had a chat with BM and BMP (BM's partner) last week, BMP's dad lives in Wales, and BMP has offered to take SS17 to Wales for 6 weeks to stay with his dad...BMP's dad repairs and builds bikes and quad bikes and such, and SS17 likes all that stuff. OH and BM are hoping that being away from GF, drugs and mates will help SS17 see that life is much better, that it does go on etc. Thing is, they are not going to tell SS17 he is going for 6 weeks, they are going to tell him its just for the weekend and blag the other weeks. Now in theory I agree it could work, with 4 possible scenarios;

1. He wont want to come back, he will want to stay with BMP's dad for good and have a life there (I personally think this is THE best option, and not because of my feelings for him, but because of 2 of the scenario's)

2. He will come back and head straight to GF and mates and slip back into his old routine, but maybe with a bit more brains about him

3. He will kick off massively as previously done, to get back home or he will sink to a level where he will steal money and make his own way back.

4. He will come back refreshed, refuse to see GF and tell her they are done, stay off the drugs knowing how much damage they do, and not mix too much with the mates and move back in with his mother.

Honestly? I genuinely believe it will be 2 or 3. I'm hoping its 1.

OH thinks it will help cos at the moment SS17 cant see another way out. I don't think that's true. I think its because he doesn't WANT the other way, cos that involves punishment, rules and respect. I can see SS17 heading down a dangerous and slippery slope, indeed I think he has already started the slope, so it can only get worse. I don't want to engage conversation about this kid, nor engage with the kid in question.....but I have to have my guard there in case OH and BM decide he should come back to my house.