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My Boyfriend and BM are going to the Lawyer 2morrow, FINALLY!!

Stressed Out Mom's picture

Keeping fingers crossed that they work something out and all will be finalized. I spoke to her today and listen to her bitch that my BF is distant from her and does not communicate with her. She still does not get that its not about her. Its about the child they share. Also the way she did him dirty, he has no respect for her and does not feel like pretending he is her friend. She needs to get over it and do the right thing for her daughter. She seems to think that her and kid are a package deal. That is crazy!

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buttercookie's picture

What did the doctor say? Or did your DH not bother himself calling? While some curiosity is normal in kids your stepdaughter is more curious than normal for her age and its affecting other children. I'd be curious to hear what the doctor said, Your sd needs some help and you have a son to protect. seeing a lawyer without the advice from a doctor could back fire on you. What your sd did could be deemed normal by a professional and the professional could provide advise as to how you can help your SD and also protect your son. Not consulting the doctor and running to a lawyer could result in your DH or BF and you looking like you are trying to attack the bm

buttercookie's picture

I really didn't mean to be that harsh on you earlier but you are putting your son and yourself in jeopardy for a man who won't do whats necessary for his 6 year old. Just know even if you watch your son and keep him away from her 100% of the time, if she lies it can still really mess his life up because it will still need to be investigated and you have stated this child has been caught lying. It'd be a shame if you ended up not being able to have your child because of your man's inability or unwillingness to do anything to get to the bottom of this and help his child. Also this kid is 6 it gets way worse as they get older and if he's not willing to nip it in the bud now imagine what it will be like in 2 years or 4 or even 6. If I were you I'd already have packed up and left for the safety of MY child. No man is worth the potential liability especially if he's unwilling to do anything about it.

Stressed Out Mom's picture

Yes he has been in contact with the doc.We are also putting her in a group called Rainbows. We have learned that her mom recently had a C-section when having her baby. Too much info was given to her daughter and she was playing surgery and that is what happen. Doc said Mom needs to be more aware of how much info she is giving to child because at this age they like to mimic moms while playing. I found Rainbows, its for children her age that meet as a group because their parents are going through a divorce and they can see there are other kids that are going through the same thing. Its a healthy way for her to understand divorce exspcially if the parents dont talk to her about it.

buttercookie's picture

That sounds like a wonderful group for your SD I hope it works out for all of you. Too bad the stupid BM had to give out too much info to the kids. Glad to know why she did that and that she hasn't been molested.