I don't want to sound petty, I really don't, but I have to let this out.
BM NEVER buys new clothes for SD's. Everything the SD's wear from her house is a hand-me-down. Now, I don't mind hand-me-down's. In fact, SD5 wears a lot of SD6's old clothes. However, these hmd's are not worn, stained or too small.
The clothes BM recieves from who knows are all of the above. Since school has started this year everytime SD's come home from school from BM's house they are wearing either a shirt with obvious stains on it, it's too small, it has a small hole it in, and pants where the knees in the jeans are worn, too short, stained, etc. You get the picture.
Now, that being said, I know there is nothing I can do about this and I know because DH and I have tried telling BM these clothes are inappropriate. She has acknowledged but still does nothing about it.
I know you are probably asking, does she have the money to buy new clothes and the answer is yes, very much so. She and her H have good jobs. She just chooses not too because she keeps getting hmd's.
There was one instance where a friend of both DH and BM mentioned they had some old clothes for the SD's. DH was visiting the friend and took the bag full of clothes. BM showed up the next day to pick up SD's and asked where the clothes were. Shah, like we are going to give them to you! I'll weed through them first and throw out the nasty stuff and then the SD's can wear THEIR clothes where ever they want.
Anyway, it just pisses me off that DH and I spend a decent amount of money on SD's to make sure they have nice clothes to wear to school and friends houses. BM couldn't care less about what they wear or what she wears for that matter and I'm afraid that when the SD's get older they will start getting made fun of in school. The SD's have taken overnight bags to BM's house before but we can't afford to buy them a wardrobe at our house and hers AND who knows when we will get our clothes back so they can wear them over here again.
I also have to admit that I have kept some of the worst of the worst clothes the SD's have worn from BM's house. I'm not giving back clothes that are nasty just so she can lay them out for school the next day.
I'm no fashionista but I know style and nice clothes when I see them. I only hope the SD's will take after me on this one.
There, it's out. I feel a little better except I know it will never stop. Ugh...