Blog 2 of 2 for today - OT Bipolar
OK, so I know some of you have BMs that are bipolar, and I'm a bit wary about posting here because i realise that many people have a very negative view of the illness, so please don't respond if all you can say is flaming those with it.
My brother has been with his girlfriend nearly a year, and she has bipolar. She was doing really well, completely controlled by medication, so much so that the Dr decided to try and reduce her meds. Unfortunately this coincided with a bad time for her as her cousin died from cancer, and one of her friends with the same condition attempted suicide. She had a psychotic break a couple of weeks ago & my brother who was with her at the time was really freaked out as she was trying to strangle herself (just with her hands, so it's impossible to succeed) and called the ambulance.
Anyway, she seemed to be getting better, but at the weekend recognised some early warning signs in herself & voluntarily put herself in hospital. Last night I called my brother to see how she was doing & offer him support and he seemed reasonably positive, she was struggling to trust the staff & would come out with strange comments, but he was fairly confident that she was stabilising again. Half an hour later my mum calls to let me know that they'd just found out she tried to to a runner, and she's been sectioned.
It's all just a bit weird at the moment, I didn't sleep well last night, worrying about her and my brother (he's epileptic and stress is often a trigger for fits). The way my mum was talking I think she would rather he split up with her, and although I wouldn't be able to blame him for walking away saying he couldn't cope he truly loves her, and I can honestly say I've never seen him so happy with anyone. She is really good about trying to manage her condition, and told him early on so that he could walk away then if he wanted, but this is the first time he's seen the condition in full swing.
I've managed to find him some online bipolar forums, plus a couple of local support groups for family of those with mental health issues, but any suggestions on what I could do to support him, any useful tips on dealing with bipolar all gratefully received.
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Hi Storm... You are very
Hi Storm... You are very sweet and caring. I just wanted to get that out there.
I think the best thing you can do to support him is what you are doing. Give him those support groups and online forums to do his own research and vent as well. Be an ear and shoulder for him.
But the most important thing I think you are doing... is that you see that girl for who she is and not what she has. She is not her illness. It is just getting the best of her right now.
It's not an easy road for your brother - with epilepsy. And it's not an easy road for this girl - with BPD. But together, they seem like they can make their roads more pleasant!
She didn't stop taking her medication without a reason. It's not her fault that she is in a relapse. No one would think twice if my doctor tried to reduce my asthma meds and I had a severe life threatening asthma attack. They wouldn't blame the doctor. He thought he was helping me. And I can't think that anyone would blame me at all!! It's not different that what she has gone through.
Please continue to give them your love and support.
Best wishes...
*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***
Thanks Stick, I think that's
Thanks Stick,
I think that's what's so hard with any mental health problem - she's not herself at the moment. My brother doesn't like going to see her by himself, so normally takes a friend or my mum with him.
From my point of view, I really thought this relationship would be it for him, I've been viewing her as my future sister in law, not just another girlfriend passing through.
I've decided I hate mental illness with a passion - I coped better when my dad had cancer - at least we knew the score, we knew early on what the prognosis was & he's now been in remission for over a year! I contacted a local mental health charity to do some volunteering recently, and I'm going to go chase that up now - at least it's something vaguely productive I can do!
Sorry, I'm rambling
((( Hugs ))) girl. You
((( Hugs ))) girl. You are so compassionate and kind... It will get better. They just have to get her meds back on track and back into her system for a bit. And now the doctor knows...no more messing around with something that's working!!
It's so hard for anyone that has to deal with it in a relative, friend, etc. I can't even imagine though what hell that poor girl must be living through. She has no control of her own mind. She is not who she wants to be either right now. It's very tragic.
Stay strong. It will get better!!
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I feel bad for your brother
I feel bad for your brother b/c I know what he's going through. My SD is BP, and it's hard. I feel like I never really got to know who she truly is b/c her personality is skewed by the BP. I hope he reads up on it and learns everything he can about it. Knowledge is power. Good luck to him, and her!
Thanks Sia, Unfortunately it
Thanks Sia,
Unfortunately it gets worse - found out last night that she's now in the most secure unit, a nurse is with her constantly to stop her trying to harm herself & she's too distressed for visitors.
Support has come from an unexpected place though - BM! She & my brother are at the same university & share some lectures, though they aren't really friendly. As SS10 adores my brother we told BM & SS that he was having a hard time as his GF was sick & she offered lecture notes for him, to pick up/return books to the library etc.
There - I've found a smallest of silver linings!