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stlgirl's picture

I am new to this site so i really don't know what you say or talk about but i kind of need some input on something. I have been with my step kids since they have been 4 so its ben 4 yrs now. For some reason lately my step son who is only 8 has been acting out alot. Their father is in the Navy and is always gone so i know that effects them. But lastnight my step son got a hold of matches and lit the trash can on fire. He said he knew what he was doing. How do i handle this situation. They both take turns tag teamimg me.
I just don't know how much more i can take since it's always me who has to deal with this stuff...Any opions

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Cat8474's picture

Are there any other of their family members who could help you or yours? Are you alone with these kids? If so I am sorry, sounds like a hard situation to be in! Did you and the kids dad talk about disciplining them before he left? If he is leaving everything up to you these kids should be listening to you, just be as firm as you can!

As for the matches, can they be put where he can't reach them? That is a really scary thing! He could start a fire! I'm sure he is not thinking how bad that could get, but he sure shoudn't have matches!

I have a 13 year old SD and she has trouble listening to me too, but I have decided for myself not to take the abuse, if she directly talks back to me and gives me a hard time, I am standing up for myself! I am a nice person and I deserve respect as her father's wife, her step-mom and as an adult! Kids today think they can give us attitude and get away with it! I know if I talked to my parents the way she talks to me, I would have been in big trouble!

Hope I helped you some! This site is nice because now you know you are not alone! It's a lifesaver for me!