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Submitted by SteppingUp on Tue, 08/23/2011 - 3:40pm

I feel like I've been here before...oh wait. I have.

Next week is our week on with the skids, Sunday-Sunday. FDH and his boss had some sort of miscommunication, so instead of working early shifts next week he is closing EVERY day...which means that SteppingUp has to pick up the skids and baby, do everything each night, and then FDH gets to come home at 9:30 when all the kids are already in bed and relax, plus of course sleep in and chillax each morning until 1pm.

We have 24 days left til the wedding and I have a ton of little projects to take care of. FDH can help with SOME of them but really I need to do a lot of them. We have no family in town to help out with projects OR kids, so needless to say I'm a little frazzled.

If FDH can't switch his shifts next week, I'm not sure what to do. I could:
A) Be a big girl, suck it up, and not cause more stress than we need right now by fighting this.
Dirol Tell BM the predicament and tell her that she will need to keep her daughter (who is NOT my FDH's daughter whatsoever) next week so that I only have SS3 and baby to deal with. (of course SD would love this -- 4 days with her mom by herself!)
C) Call SD's biodad and see if he would be willing to take SD for any of those days...of course let BM know that is our plan too.

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Submitted by WickedStepMom18 on Tue, 08/23/2011 - 4:25pm

Why must we always accomodate?!! Your wedding is less than a month away. I think, this time, you're entitled to call in reinforcements! Don't try it on your own... don't suck it up. Ask the parents to help.

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Wed, 08/24/2011 - 3:18pm

UGh....so here's an update, if any of you come back and check on this.

I emailed BM just now and gave her a heads up about next week. I knew that if FDH waited to figure out schedule stuff, she would use the excuse, "I've already made plans next week".

So in my email I mention how having SD stay with her might be better for SD....it's her first week of school next week, let her get into the "grind of things" without having to stress about going to our house, BM's house, her biodad's house all in one week on her first week of school.

BM's response? "I'll just take both kids next week until you and FDH figure it out. Thx."

So I had to write her back that NO...we're still gonna take SS3 because we have court-ordered stipulation regarding our visitation with him. NOT with SD6. Of course BM is turning this all around that we don't need to have both kids then. She just doesn't "get it" and wants to play the victim.

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Submitted by the_stepmonster on Wed, 08/24/2011 - 3:23pm

Maybe you should just let her keep both kids next week. So what if she feels like the victim. She will just be feeding her own narcissism but it will have no impact on you. Also, your FDH wouldn't be able to spend a ton of time for them anyway, which would mean you would still be doing the brunt of the work. As long as he is okay with it, let her have her little pity party and focus on your big day!