Ridiculous amounts of presents because of blended families...
Just a little vent about gifts and kids. We debated whether or not to get the kids much for Christmas, and we felt like we didn't have much under the tree when it came down to the week of. But after all the gifts from Grandmas and Grandpas and aunts and uncles and Santa it turned out they got TONS AND TONS of stuff. Not that we're not thankful, but we're seriously considering next year telling DF's parents to tone it down A LOT.
Last night we had SD5 for the first time since last week. She had a ton of presents to open. We had saved one of SS3's big presents to open while his sister opened hers, so he wouldn't feel too left out. It's a big-wheel tricycle.
SD5 ripped open her toys and actually GOT BORED opening presents, so she just stopped. What the heck?
SS3 opened his big wheel and thought it was cool, and watched/'helped' my fiance put it together. Then it was dinner time and SS3 didn't want to eat so DF told him that he's taking away his big wheel then if he won't eat all of his dinner...SS3 DIDN'T CARE! We explained it to him a few different ways (that he would NEVER get to play with it because it would go away), and he walked to his room, got another toy, and said, "But I have THIS toy I can play with."
So we originally thought we'd take it away from him until spring time and maybe regift as an Easter gift, we decided to indeed sell it on Craigslist or donate. If the kid doesn't care to have it, then he doesn't need it.
Just tells you how many gifts they get...they could absolutely care less about 90% of them.
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At 3, kids don't really
At 3, kids don't really understand the concept of "never".
i'm all up for getting skids
i'm all up for getting skids next to nothing for christmas & bdays. but i have to agree a little harsh for a 3 year old, but i do understand your frustrations. i like the regift it for easter or something. that way you get to take away and feel better, gift is already taken care of and skid gets the big wheel.. winning all over the place!
finey ~ a ss to be proud
finey ~ a ss to be proud of...... if i had that scenario, i would probably go buy him an awesome gift just because. see my skids are so stupid they don't get how easy it would be to have an awesome life with me, but i am tired of trying to teach them. i just get a buzz and listen to all the dirt they have to dish about everyone behind their back ~ (they must get that from mil & bm).
Looks like most of you feel
Looks like most of you feel it was an overreaction/punishment that doesn't fit the crime...and I do understand your point and am totally all for having punishments that fit the crimes! I can totally see the point -- Thank you for making it.
I told DF he can decide what to do in the long run with it, since he's the one that bought it (although it's just a cheapo one, $15). The next day when we had SS3 he kind of looked at the big wheel, asked if he could ride it, and when DF explained what happened the other night and told him that if he can eat all his dinner that night he could have it back. SS3 shrugged. It was dinner time and he again ate like one bite of something he LOVES to eat. He even said, "I don't care" in a snotty voice to us about it when we reminded him that he'd get the big wheel "back". He was purposely being stubborn about it. We deal constantly with issues surrounding the way that BM raises him (she molds to his every whim, he has her wrapped around her finger, and rarely gets consequences for things he does) and we feel we've been very consistent with him. So no, the punishment doesn't really fit the crime, but given that he's been defiant about THIS issue and acting like he doesn't care about the big wheel anyway, what's the point of giving it to him?
I know that a 3.5 year old is not logical and doesn't really see consequences of their actions on their own...but how then do you TEACH them that without a teachable moment like this?