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Submitted by steppingsucks on Tue, 04/16/2013 - 11:11am

The good:

Because of DH's work schedule changing, SS9 now lives with his mom most of the time, except for 1-2 days per week. Although BM is probably not the best place for SS9 to change his ways, his behavior has become so toxic in our house that I've got to put more attention on myself, my marriage, and my own biokids.

The bad:

SS9's behavior is still out of control and getting worst. What's he up to now?

Disney Dads never change, do they...

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Mon, 04/01/2013 - 12:03pm

Unfortunately for me and my family, I was wrong with the "progress" that I hoped for with my last blog post (http://www.steptalk.org/node/120614). DH hasn't changed in his view that we need to keep 50/50 custody of SS9 (almost SS10), even if that means that I have to deal with SS9 while he's away at work. I'm sticking to my guns that SS9 should be watched by either DH or BM, even if that means SS9 getting full custody. SS9 is completely out of control with everyone!

Progress...I hope that it doesn't go away!

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Fri, 03/08/2013 - 12:57pm

Progress...I hope that it doesn't go away!

So here's a quick update on my circumstances. We currently have 50/50 custody, but I had DH change it so that SS9 was only at our house on the days when DH is home because of his terrible treatment of me. Now DH's job schedule will change in a week so that he works a more normal shift on Mon-Fri...yea!!!

Our 50/50 custody is going bye-bye

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Wed, 02/20/2013 - 9:38am

So I just got the news that we're moving from 50/50 custody to about 30/70 custody. DH is a shift worker, and he'll work for 5 days and then be off for two. So that means in a two week period, BM will have SS9 for 10 days and we'll have him for 4 days. As I mentioned on a previous blog post, I stood my ground and made the change a few months back that SS9 could only be at our house when DH is also home. So that means that we won't have SS9 as much, and we'll have to pay child support to deadbeat BM who's on welfare, disability and food stamps.

Disengaging is so hard to do, but it's the only way to cope

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Wed, 02/13/2013 - 11:15am

Ok, here's a rant. Hopefully it will help to give my brain a break.

So SS9 is staying over tonight and tomorrow night, and I'm not at all looking forward to it. Some interesting news though: SS9 now treats BM's fiance the same we he treats me. Now BM admits that what I've been going through with SS9 is terrible, and that SS9 has been lying about a lot of things for the past 6+ years.

Found DH's secret stash of old photos online w/BM and ex-girlfriend!

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Submitted by steppingsucks on Tue, 09/25/2012 - 12:27pm

So I go onto a photo site that we've been using since our wedding to reminisce, yet when I log on with what I think is our shared login, I find DH's own photo site with photos from his past. At first I thought it was nothing, until I noticed several photos of his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend in the mix. Mind you that most involved birthdays with SS9, but still...

I have to say that I cringe when I see a photo of his ex-wife, but as long as it stays in SS9's bedroom, I'm fine with it. But to find this, I don't even know what to say.

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