I thought we had a pretty good weekend, considering SD12 had an attitude all weekend and kept taking it out on the boys. I know she's going on 13 and will soon be a "terrible teen" but as DH FINALLY came to realize this weekend, SD is used to getting her own way at BM's but she doesn't get away with as much when she is with us.
Anyway, the kids ran the town (very small rural) all day Saturday. Around 6:30 I called them home for supper. SD came back with one of the girls in town and last minute, and asked me if she could go skating at 7 with her friend. Now, mind you we are VERY FINANCIALLY CHALLENGED at the moment, but decided that we could scrape up the $15 for her to go skating and have money for snacks. I rushed her into the shower to get ready and then helped her dry her hair. While I was brushing her hair she winced and said she had a sore spot on her head so I asked her what happened. She said her brothers were throwing rocks at her while they were out but that it was okay and she made her brother carry her yard sale bags as a way to "earn her forgiveness". She acted like it was no big deal and in the rush to get her ready, the rock incident was forgotten.
When I asked SS about the rock incident, he admitted doing it but that SD was acting like a litte "snot" as girls will do to their younger brothers...calling names, picking on them, being just plain hateful in general. Well, the boys got fed up and threw a few small rocks from the street at them. They were wrong in doing this and their behavior has not been excused but neither has SD's because we don't allow them to mistreat each other in any way. Especially since they are learning from BM to be such bullies and teaching SD to hate her brothers because girls should rule the world and boys should be their slaves...I digress...sorry.
SD called me once while she was at the skating rink....her friends playing with their cell phones....which they had already called me at least 6 times while they were running around town earlier in the day....typical kid stuff.
Anyway, yesterday we went to MIL/FIL's house as we always do when kids are all here together so that they can see them too. MIL had s'mores planned for after lunch because they are burning out a tree stump.
SD still has an attitude toward her brothers and I had to go tell her more than once that if she couldn't resist the urge to say nasty, hateful things to them and stop kicking them, then she needed to get away from them.
Well, you might remember that SD got braces in January. We have a no-no list, provided by BM,and SD has begun to use this list at her convenience when she wants or doesn't want a particular food. SD tells MIL that at the skate rink Sat. night that she had 3 bags of popcorn (no-no), 3 cotton candies (no-no) and soda (no-no). Okay, no big deal right? It was a treat to go skating with her friends from our town.
Here's the problem, SD says "I can't have s'mores because they have marshmallows in them and they're considered sticky food" and then within minutes, while MIL and I are getting the s'mores ingredients laid out, SD comes over and starts gobbling up chocolate (without permission) until I noticed and told her to stop, you can have s'mores pretty soon like everyone else. Well, she starts with the "sticky" marshmallows again and MIL and I both told her that if she wants sweets she'll eat s'mores like everyone else....she ate just as many as the boys did.
So, no big deal, right??? WRONG!!!!!!!
After we dropped SS and SD off at BM's house and we drive away, SS (who lives with us)tells me that SD said she's going to tell BM how I made her eat s'mores. I just told him, so what?? Big deal?? Kinda blew it off.
Well, I get up this morning and discover an email from BM that came in about 1 AM, about how SS came home looking like a "lobster" from the sun, the boys threw rocks at their sister, and get this.....Mary forced SD to eat s'mores....WTF???
I get so sick of this s***!! Once when SD was about 7, we painted fingernails and toenails a purple glittery polish that SD picked out. When she got home, BM was not happy about it so SD told BM that I held her down and polished them. This is the type of stuff we deal with constantly because BM makes a big deal out of EVERYTHING so the kids tell lies and "throw us under the bus".
Recently we told the kids they had to start standing up to BM and that we would no longer take the fall for them.
Apparently, this didn't matter to SD but she may be even madder soon because if DH lets me send what I have typed up already in response to BM's email...
I'm dragging SD under the bus with me and it'll be my turn to "tattle"
Is this wrong???
I am so angry with SD because she has been doing this a lot to me lately...going home and telling lies about me to BM and then when she gets here and we talk to her about it, it's boo-hoo, hugs and I'm sorry's. Plus, she is sooooo ungrateful for everything I do for her...I have always treated her as my own (maybe that's a mistake)and would do anything for her and this is how I get re-paid. Of course, she does the same thing to her Dad so I know it's nothing more than the PAS kicking in but COME ON!!!!!