My 13 yr old is soooooooooo busted!!

A little background. She had her 1st BF in grade 6..1st crush puppy-love ect..they called each other BF & GF and hung out in a group playing tag at recess/lunch at school That was the extent of it. TO me no big deal. I thought it was kind of cute..this lasted for 1 yr..ended middle of grade 7.

She is in grade 8 now..she is beautiful. Well there's a steady line up of boys who are interested in her... and she has 'dated' a few of them for a couple months at a time. But she's too young for any real BF/GF relationship .... and its' not so "cute" anymore. I keep pretty close tabs on her...and usually know whose chasing who in her circle of friends..(they are all interested in boys..some have BF's some don't ..some parents know..some don't)

I know what many of the kids are up to in her school, some are sexually active, some are into drugs, some are drinking....and we discuss stuff like this all the time. She's in a pretty good circle so far..she doesn't get along with the 'trouble-makers' and doesn't associate with them. We discuss some girls who jump from guy to guy and she thinks they are 'slutty'...whether or not they are sexually active. We both seem to agree that that's not good behaviour...

I've been telling her for a while that she's too young for a BF that she and 1st BF were really more like best friends and she's better off having guys as freinds at this point until she matures alittle more. Explained that's why it doesn't last more that 1 or 2 months..because 'dating' just ruins the friendship she has with them. I know many of the parents of these boys..and they really are good kids.. She just dumped her last BF and I put my foot down and said "no more". You need to grow up some more..your not ready..you don't have time or maturity at this point ..to balance sports/friends/school..etc. And that she is jumping from guy to guy too quickly..and it's making her look trashy. So BF's are banned for a while....

Well...it's Dads weekend...but I took her to ringette followed by a public skate..while son went to a public swim in the same complex...and X was going to show up later to meet and exchange suitcases from my to his car. Daughter was very adament that we not 'meet' at the rink..that X & I were to 'meet' at the pool.....hhhhhmmmmmmm.

Something smelled fishy!!!!

Hubby & I peek through the little rink door window and who do we see skating around holding hands with a BOY!!! So we march into the rink..stand by the upper railing and holler her name to get her attention...and embarass her in front of all of her friends and give her a BIG WAVE!! I point at her and say "Your busted!!" THE LOOK ON HER FACE!!!! Her hand went to her mouth in a gasp and stayed that way as she skated..

We walk out to meet X..told him the story and he said He was going in to BUST HER AGAIN!!!

I won't talk to her until Sunday when she gets home.... I'm letting her sweat it out for the weekend!! But she is sooooo grounded...no computer..no phone...she is under lock & key..for at least 2 weeks. Then parole for a month or two after that....

Don't sneak around behind our backs...you will get busted!!!! She thought that she could pull one over..because Dad was supposed to be 'the parent on duty'... I have to come down hard so that playing us off and getting caught will not be worth the risk in the furture!!!

The teen years have officially arrived!!!!