I met my husband about 6 years ago, in fact our anniversary is this Halloween 5 years. He had a son from another girl, they were never married. My husband was a pretty messed up guy when we met, in an out of jail and not responsible at all. He was pretty much in jail the first 2 years of his son's life. His girlfriend wasn't anything to write home about either. That is when we met, he moved in as a roomate. I needed help with bills. A month or two later we got together. Over night basically I drove him to the ex's house to pick up his son...it was weird I never was in a long relationship before, and all of a sudden I am living with a guy who has a kid and a total crazy B*ch ex! Well long story short flash forward to last year. His ex is Bi-polar, she apparently has been abusing drugs, drinking, and running a meth lab out of her mothers home where she lived, then she tried to commit suicide 3 different times, ended up in the looney bin 5 times within two months. We filed an emergancy hearing in court and well it took a year. But we won custody, well primary placement. So the roles have reversed. She used to have primary placement, and my husband paid childsupport and she would mess with us all the time, changing our visitation, to we couldn't have him because she had plans. Now the reason she got away with it, well honestly it seems that the courts really dump on men. They don't think men can be anything than a sperm donor. The treated him like crap when he tried to talk to child support about what has been going on. and Now that the roles have reversed they have done nothing to help him either. Starting with child protective services. I know I shouldn't involve myself in anyway...but he is my family he is my love and I hate to see him get screwed so I called and called and called child protective services about doing "something" anything, just listen! This was an unstable environment for the ss. It was obvious and well documented with the cops. After hours on the phone someone actually listened. They started a chips potition but I am not even sure what that is exactly. Then they gave us the ss, he was with us all the time now because she was in the looney bin. She called the house daily, (I recorded it) she talked like she was so doped up you couldn't understand her, she lied over and over to the ss. He has seen so much. The first time she went to the nuthouse the cops found her curled up in a closet and the kid was sitting in the room crying in only underware. He was about 6-7 at that time. Unreal. Anyway I could go on and on. But after we went to court, she didn't fight a thing. But now she is to pay child support, and we haven't seen a dime. She is suppose to pay 1/2 of the difference since I added him to our insurance plan. We haven't seen a dime. and yet we are suppose to drive him to her house and she drops him off. it just doesn't seem fair. She is getting away with everything she gets to see him during her set visits and yet she doesn't need to help us in any way. I am not saying that we are broke or anything but any little bit would help. I hate the fact I spend my hard earned money to support her son and she doesn't even have to get a job! She can take him out to eat every time she has him (she doesn't know how to cook?) she can buy him video games every week (which she does) and yet I am forking out 25 dollars every 3 weeks for hot lunch for school. When she had him she was on welfare so that is why my husband couldn't be late or miss any child support payments but because we are hard working middle class people who HAVE JOBS she doesn't have to work? She doesn't have to buy school clothes? she doesn't have to help pay for lunches for him or daycare when there is no school? it makes me crazy! I hate her so much and I find myself taking out on ss. it isn't his fault and I don't dare say anything bad about her to him, but I know for a fact she talks about me all the time. I stole his dad! (I didn't) she is so messed up on her bipolarness and her meds and we have it written in the court papers if we feel she is being unstable we can pull visits but that would require us to pay for another lawyer that we can't afford. Oh yeah she got a lawyer by saying that she was in a domestic abused relationship with my husband, she got a lawyer for FREE because she lied! NICE. YEP and the state is giving her money every month and she lives with her mother who also lives off the state and her little brother who was dealing meth out of the home last year. How is this right? Where are my husbands rights? Who can fight for him?? I swear some days I don't want to go home. I want to keep driving. I didn't sign up for this did I? I love my husband so much, but lately I can't stand our situation. I hate the fact I have to share the rest of my life with this nutjob! and her kid who hates me, doesn't respect me, lies to me. Lies to his dad, and dad doesn't seem to care and doesn't disapline because he doesn't want to upset him. When does the babying stop?