Tell him that hearing about how he has "been there,done that" would be the same as when you're having sex/making love for you to be like, "OH I wanna try this NEW thing with you...you've never done it but my last man did, I'll teach you."

He's probably not realizing the way he's being is hurtful to you and if he does know it, he probably doesn't understand why. The best thing to do is to take the emotion out of it and talk to him straight. "would you enjoy it if you were a virgin and I wasn't and all I did was tell you what it was going to be like when we finally had sex and what you could expect and compared your future lovemaking to what I had in the past??"

Sounds weird, but in order to get through to my husband I ALWAYS have to put the words 'sex' or 'lovemaking' SOMEWHERE in the conversation...once I do that, he becomes an ACTIVE and ATTENTIVE listener.

~“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone"~ Audrey Hepburn

Penis'. Talk about your ex's penis, lol. Maybe then he'll get the picture.

PENIS SIZE?!
I know that my FH has asked this question of me on occasion and of course you HAVE to say his is just FINE! I don't know why men think they need giant HUGE ones - where would they put THAT thing?????

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

Men are clueless. I vote for 'penis size'. Tell him all about how well endowed your ex-lover was and how many different 'swing from the chaldelier' moments you had with your ex. That should muzzle him.

As a man..yeah penis size or previous multiple orgasms are usually a way to put things in perspective lol

OMG CC, we are going through the exact same situation, but I'm not as nice as you are, I mean I heard his comments twice and I gave him a warning that I know this is not new for him but it is for me and I wanted to have my own experience that he could join me and be more sensitive about it, but the third time I couldn't take it anymore, he tried to tell me not to reach over my head for my ice cream!! what a hell was he thinking, I must admit I have been in a horrible mood lately but come on I tried to explain him that I read about it and it's perfectly fine, then he said "well I know it's no ok" @#$%!! so I said "are you really trying to make me take the experience from a person that didn't cut her hair during pregnancy and doesn't eat eggs on her period because it's not ok??" and finished it with "If I need advice I will ask you, if not, please keept it to yourself" so now I haven't heard anything, I mean I'm reading books, I have the advice from my mom, aunts, my doctor and internet. I know he is trying to help but I don't need to hear from him what BM used to do while pregnant.
And if I need to know what in hell are Witch Hazel Pads I'll ask you guys because I have no idea....

I've thought about having the experience that you're describing here many, many times, and it's hard not to want to just break down in frustration. I don't have any advice to share but I feel for you and I hope that your pregnancy experience is beautiful and full of happiness. It IS one of the most sacred and primal experiences for any woman (and man) and it's something you want to share with your DH that is yours and only yours. My SO tells me that it will be different for us, but I even see it now with SS that there are certain things that simply will be the same. Even seeing my SO with his newborn nephew makes my heart ache. He's so comfortable with babies, how to hold them, how to touch them. It breaks my heart. Anyway, just sending along good vibes for you a and your belly. He's with YOU because they others simply didn't cut it. YOU'RE the best of the best, the others were just ugly trials, and without them he would be blind to the wonder of you

My husband was dumb enough to share the story of the night he thinks he got the ex-wife pregnant and where. Which bit him in the ass because when he sold the property he wanted to move that said coneption site (the deck he built, it was a nice deck too but forever ruined with that image) to our house and I would not let him..I would have had to burn it or thrown up in my mouth everytime I sat on it.
My husband did not do that with the pregnancy experiences, the only thing he did was mention that he never remebered her getting that as big as I was getting...I came pretty close to murdering him in my mind because she had twins and I did not, he didn't mean it as a slam, he just menat it form the stand point that maybe the doctors missed a baby and I was having twins too...It turned out that all my baby weight was baby weight and fluid because I developed toxemia. I left the hospital after delivering my first son weighing less than I did before I got pregnant with him I bet the ex wife can't say the same. So if I did get bigger than her it was because of the toxemia, and bigger or not, I was cuter pregnant because I wore cute maternity clothes, and she wore mens sweat pants and flannels..ugly ones at that.

Now his ex wife on the other hand felt the need to give me all the birth details to prepare me while I was pregnant. So annoying.
And gross to hear all the details of her mucous plug from her. Really. TMI.

My DH did talk about my Skids as babies. Not only do the children from first marriages seem more special but Twins are even more special. Or so they think. It gets annoying not being a parent in the TWIN club with him. Every time he sees another set of twins he has to talk to the parents of them because its some special thing to bond over and I get so annoyed. I prefer to think that a child is special because of theri characteristics, talents and personality but apparantly being a twin makes you magic or something. SO he drove me nuts w/ that. He also drove me nuts after my boys were born because the twin crawled and walked at an earlier age...yeah becasue they were left in a playpen all day with nothing else to do and were trying to escape. He kept making me feel like he thought the twins were smarter than our boys because they moved first...Well my kids talked first, and did just about every other milestone first. It drives me nuts because he makes it liek a competition his first kids vs. our kids, and theirs enough sibling rivarly without that.

On a side note I spent both my pregnancy worrying that my babies would have my SS big cone shaped baby head. I felt so horrbile worrying about that but I did. SS is a cute kid but he was not a cute baby (even his twin sister says it so I dont feel so bad she says he looke dlike and alien baby) Now I look back and it was really a silly worry. But as the second wife we do get to develope some weird insecuriteis and worries of our own