First I just want to state that I regret the day BM got SS and xbox and the day H and I got SS an xbox 360.

BM got SS xbox 2 Christmas ago we got SS xbox 360 last Christmas. H and I were very reluctant to get that for him as we did not want him glued to the game whole time with us but we agreed that H and SS could play together which they do so we got it.

Now SS has really kicked up his attitude i.e smartmouth, backtalk, arguing with parents teachers, not doing what he is told etc. at our home always been issue at BM. This attitude kick up happened right before Thanksgiving when BM lost her job Many letters have been sent home from his teacher that he is fine young man but needed to change his attitude and fast. Not to mention his reading sucks and other schoolwork is not what it should be. So around 1st of March BM has her fill of SS and calls H to vent about how she is tired of his attitude and his crap. Well they decide to have sit down talk with SS and she asks us to come over Friday(her weekend). So we go and BM and her BF and H and I talk about the things we see as problems and in general tell different situations that have occurred. BM tells that SS has called 911 2 times to her house and all other kinds of mischevious stuff.

BM then goes into the xbox rant about how that is all he does is play she cannot get him to stop etc. We have not really had that issue thus far with SS and the game.

So we all decide to post a rules chart in both homes along with a chore chart for SS to follow. BM is all on board and gonna go out tomorrow and get her a board and start it ASAP. We discussed reward for doing what was told. BM's BF said even if it is just a $5 toy and BM and I both said noway we should not have to buy anything. So H and I said well I believe we will use time on the xbox, tv, and playing as reward for doing all he has to do. BM and BF say ok good idea.

So we do what we say and get our board. SS comes back on Wed and H picks him up and BM says he has been soooo good and that she has not done the board yet. So SS gets home and we remind him that this weekend when he comes we will post the chart and go over the rules and chores as we did not have time on Wed night with homework, supper, and church. At bedtime we again give brief overview that things are about to change and SS starts crying how long will this be for and my mom not making do that etc. So weekend comes and we go over rules with SS let him give ideas of rules and list chores and post all this on wall outside his room and let him know that xbox, tv, and play time is the reward. The weekend went great he followed rules, did his chores and earned his xbox time and all was great. Ss tells us that last weekend at his mom's he helped her cut bushes so she bought him a new video game!!! uhhh did not think a purchased item was the reward let alone a video game for the thing that bothers you that SS plays all time.

The next Wed we get call that they cannot control SS and he hollering back talking etc. H said did you do the board like you told him they said no. H said well he is never going to do what yall tell him cause yall never back it up. H brings SS home and he is great all night. We do homework, eat supper and go to church. BM has SS over spring break so it 2 weeks we do not see SS. H calls SS and he is just back from GameStop where guess what mom bought him another game!!! so that is 2 games in 2 weeks. SS comes back for Wed visit after spring break and it is evident he has been with only BM...smartmouth, backtalk, arguing all the before mentioned stuff. So H had set down and told him he meant what he said and he was coming for the weekend so re-read the rules cause they do apply here and SS says well my mom and H says I do not care about what mom does at her house this is my house and you will do what I say or I am going to know why. So SS comes for Easter and it is great weekend my sweet loving SS is back. He played xbox all day friday with a friend but was not allowed to play the rest of the weekend due to playing all day Friday and he was cool with it.

Well today BM calls to see if this new game she bought SS can be played on his 360 at our house. So that is game 3 that we know of and she has yet to do the chart at her home and since complained more about SS behavior.

I can tell you know is going to be sunny and low 80's this weekend and SS is with us and the xbox will not come on this weekend unless he plays while waiting on us to get ready for church and he will do his chores and extra practice reading.

I think my real aggravation is the rewarding SS for behavior that does not warrant anything but a swift kick in the a**. She has bought 3 new games for him since her rant about she hated the xbox and could not get him to stop playing. also she has no job how can she afford 3 new games at 50 or 60 a pop.I try not to let what she does in her home bother me but that is what SS problem is at school and mom blames the school and says teacher does not care about SS and she needs to be one on one with SS etc....give me a break if you were doing your job since as you have stated you have him most of the time it would not be like this at school...he is a reflection of you more than anyone else. Also I want to flush myself down the toilet when I have to hear about this game that my mom bought me.

Sorry just in general aggravated at the way she is raising SS to be.