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Another tense weekend

stepfaery's picture

I guess I should be grateful that they are not here every weekend. DH's 2 teenage daughters (15 and 17) totally disrupt the house and ruin every other weekend that they are here. It's unfortunate that it's a long weekend when I could have been relaxing and enjoying the rare time that i have with my H.

The 17 yo is the one that is causing the most trouble now. She's dating yet another loser (after a steady string of them), is more disrespectful (is that possible?) and does what she wants without fear of consequence.

The reason for the lack of fear is because she doesn't have any. My husband has been hurt, upset, angry, and concerned but has only made side comments or jokes about it with her. He insists "she gets the message" that he's not happy with her. I insist she doesn't. He's caught her in a few lies and is really surprised that he'd lie to her (BM is a lunatic) because they've had such a good relationship.

To add insult to injury, she wanted and asked him to sign off on a piercing in her ear (the cartilege part). I asked him if he was still going to do that since he's not happy with her behavior. He said yes.

Are you kidding me?!

He's rewarding her bad behavior and sees it more as "keeping his word". What BS! I'm truly disgusted by the whole situation. I've pretty much disassociated from them and try to talk with them as little as possible. It just stinks to have to witness my husband being a wimp and not seeing how being a friend is not being a parent. I can't wait for these brats to grow up so I don't have to do much with them.

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AVR1962's picture

Oh, sounds so much like my husband and he had custody....imagine livinf with what you are saying all the time an dnot just every other weekend! That was my life!

stepfaery's picture

I think he knows that living with us is not an option. I'd go insane. I'm sorry your situation is so tough.