I appreciate the users on this website. I cannot explain to you how I felt walking in on my son and my stepdaughter. Changes have been made and actions have been taken to make sure it does not happen again. I do not think I will ever have enough courage to talk to any of my friends and family about this personal matter because it is embarrassing to all involved. So I am ever so grateful for all of your advice. When things settle down more I will probably post an update. I have got over the self-pity and I realized I need to stop looking at my son through goggles and understand that he is a teenager now and that he might not hold on to all the values and beliefs that I want him to and I have to live with that. DH and I still have some things to work out with each other. The blended family dream is not quite what I imagined but I believe God will see us through.