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Step Up's picture

...I have previously posted under a different user name. I had to change because the username is well too close to my own personal accounts, and my blog posts popped up in Google search. Since I use this as a diary and venting post, I will admit that I'd rather not anyone in our family find these posts.

I have blogged in the last few days regarding my SD15, and her thinking (for the 3rd time) that she's pregnant - or using a story of being pregnant to gain attention from a boy.

Today I think she's further out of her mind.

The boy keeps telling her to go to a clinic. She tells him she's going to wait until the end of the month to see if she actually misses her period. Apparently she thinks she's pregnant because she pees and eats alot (her words). Genius.

Today she writes "will you go with me?". "Where?" he asks. "To pee on a stick." (Classy)

He declines.

She then asks him for $20 for the home pregnancy test.

Last I checked even the 2-packs aren't that expensive in our area. I could easily purchase a kit for $10.

It would really suck if she's stooping to hit him up for money when this really is just for attention.

Even if she might be pregnant, gee, how about saving up the change from all the times you hit us up for money? Perhaps even from the money above and beyond your school lunches that you get (her lunches are $1/day, vs. the $20 she gets a week).

What's even sadder is that BM pulls this stuff. She would rather someone else pay for things she's responsible for rather than actually use her own money.

Grr. My horrible snarky self wants him to find out she's faking this so that perhaps embarrassment would teach her a lesson. Her choice in boys has never been great. I don't know what part of the boy having over 1,000 friends on Facebook, and him commenting on other girls, or other girls making comments to him, would clue her in that he's just not that into her.

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justanothergurlNJ's picture

Not if the boy/s are minors themselves. I believe statutory rape is if the boy/girl is 18 and the minor is 15-16 it differs in every state, I the police were involved everytime a teenager had sex there would be no teen pregnancy!

Step Up's picture

Basically the history of this goes as follows:

SD15 has been sexually active for 2 years. Sporadically, but active. 2 experiences were "one time only".

BM refused to put her on birth control, but took her to OB/GYN to get tested the 2nd experience. Claims putting her on birth control gives her permission to have sex.

DH sees daughter as his pride and joy, no matter what she does. Refuses to deal or listen to such things that makes him look at her as anything other than the baby daughter he always wants to remember her as. I've told him numerous times that although it's an unpleasant thing he needs to take charge or be more involved when it comes to this. Both parents seem to like the "hands off" approach. As I've said before "how's that working for ya?".

Meanwhile no one seems to think far enough ahead of the consequences of her actions. My insurance covers her pregnancy if it does go that far, but nothing past that. I don't want to raise her child.

Although she's under the age of consent, the police in the past have indicated that unless it's an extreme case, that she's the one seeking out the boy and consenting. The 1st experience DH did call the boy and threaten him, but the boy said "she asked for it". The only standing DH said he had was to have BM charge the boy with trespassing.

What's even more awesome is that BM works for a not-for-profit social services agency. She sees cases like this all the time.

I don't have any bio kids, but is a parent's love that blind?

skylarksms's picture

My SD was 16 when she got pregnant and had her baby. BM had the baby daddy in court multiple times and got him into trouble and he got fines as well.

And I know that my SD sure was consenting!

skylarksms's picture

It is hard to watch a child's future go up in smoke because the bio parents don't care or are to busy passing the buck to the other parent

*Sigh* So, so true. My SD was supposed to be training for the Olympics and going to France for a class trip this year. Instead, she has dropped out of HS due to having to work enormous amounts of hours because BM is not going to pay to raise SD's baby.