SS16 having sex with his 14 yr old girlfriend.
I say, since we know about it, we must tell her parents. They are leaving them home alone together.
My husband is struggling with the thought of how to do anything about it. Pretty sure he wishes we can pretend nothing's happening.
I said, do you want me to tell the mom so you don't look like the bad guy? His request - let me talk to SS about it tomorrow on the way to school. (Yes, I rolled my eyes but I stayed silent on that one.)
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My SS, when he was 16, was
My SS, when he was 16, was caught with a 15yo and 14yo sisters. They only arrested him for the 14yo. It was in PA too.
Man, if this were my house, I
Man, if this were my house, I would have a hell of a lot to say about it. My dh couldn't hold me back. I would be on FB, instagram, anything I could think of to find the girl's parents if I didn't know them already.
Then I would call them and tell them.
And then I would tell dh we're going to do something about our end of it right here, right now. I'd have to know more of your circumstances to think up exactly what, but it would probably have a lot to do with supervising the kid a hell of a lot more closely and birth control.
So you're a 16 year old boy and on one hand you've got wappawappa-yeehaw! for the first time. On the other hand, you've got boring old dad wah-wah (grownups from Charlie Brown) talk. Can your dh figure out which hand is going to win? These "talks" these divorced dads have with their kids are going to be the end of civilization, for heaven's sake.
There has actually got to be a big bunch of consequences and storm and kerfuffle at your house right now if you do not want to become a step gramama with an 8th grade dropout bm on your hands.
I started having sex at 14,
I started having sex at 14, and no amount of talking or punishment would have stopped me. I was an adventurous child.
But a parent who could speak openly about safe sex, real risks, real facts, and real solutions- without sounding corny or like they were trying to "scare me straight" would have been really nice.
Seriously, what is he
Seriously, what is he struggling with?
14 is just too young. A 14
14 is just too young. A 14 year old can not fully deal with the repercussions of having sex. I too was an adventurous 14 year old but sex would of been way too much.
In my state a two year age
In my state a two year age difference or less would mean no legal action.
However, pregnancy is a real concern. A pregnancy will mean child services at both homes. DH will not be able to ignore that.
While DH does need to talk to his son, the girl's parents need to be told and they need to be told yesterday.
Something needs to be said to
Something needs to be said to the parents. If he isn't going to do it than you need to. She needs to be on birth control.
If parents are leaving them
If parents are leaving them alone at that age, they are either idiots, or they don't care if they are having sex.
I agree. They HAVE to be
I agree. They HAVE to be idiots. But that doesn't seem as rare as it should be. I don't think for a second they won't find some way to have sex when they want, but it won't be on our time. I am appalled none of the other parents in this mix seem to care. And he's not even my kid!
Hes 16. Shes 14. In my state,
Hes 16. Shes 14. In my state, he could be in some trouble if her parents press charges.
The sad thing is that it's
The sad thing is that it's not like it used to be. It used to be where having a discussion with the parents would have resulted in a fix to the situation. Now, your SS Could be prosecuted for having sex with a child under 16. There is no "degree" in sex crimes, so your SS would have to register as a sex offender. That label will follow him around for the rest of his life. This is a result of lack of parental supervision . These are kids being kids because no one is minding the store.
Be very careful what you advise your DH. This is a serious situation now. If I were your DH, I would let my son know what the consequences could be if it continues, and try to keep him out of her house, even if I had to pick them both up and bring them to my house.
When my SS was 16, he met a
When my SS was 16, he met a girl, 15, online in another state. I think this family was friends with BMs half brother or something. Anyway, SS would go to their house and spend weekend, weeks at their house. She also spent a week at BMs over Xmas.
After New Years, SS was staying at their house. DSO gets a call that the parents caught SS having sex with 15yo and her 14yo sister and they had SS arrested for having sex with the 14yo. Apparently, it wasn't against the law having sex with the 15yo. Well of course they were having sex. I knew they were and I was 50 miles away.
I blame it squarely on the parents for allowing a 16yo horny kid to stay with them. SS got probation bc the judge agreed. Then the dumbass SS went and had sex with a 13yo a month after probation was set.
A strange twist on SS and the 15/14 sisters. The father was arrested for something at the same time (maybe neglect?) and hung himself in the jail. We never did hear the full story on that though.
From what I heard, it was a
From what I heard, it was a threesome and all were willing participants.