Well, maybe not in real life......

Yesterday marked the last full week we get the SD's before school starts, and the parenting schedule resumes back to EOW and every Tuesday night. Before the kids arrived, I found myself apprehensive: I think, what crap is psycho going to spew off to DH during the pick up, and what are the kids going to tell me their psychotic white-trash mother did for them THIS time. So, to keep my sanity, I kept occupied away from home, and away from the stress.

DH called me several times and the conversation was tense. When I finally arrived home, he sensed my mood and asked why I let psycho bother me so much. After pondering that question I realized the answer: After almost five years, having negativity enter my house each week is wearing on my soul. It's one thing to thwart negative attacks once in a while; people are generally able to move away from that person in some respect. However, in my case, the negativity is constant, and I cannot live like that.

That evening, DH and I had a HUGE discussion about not letting psycho BM ruin even one moment of our lives with her blabbering nasty horrible filthy mouth. I told him I am through with hearing any negativity coming from that woman, that he does not have to tell me what she says! So we came up with a plan. He is going to keep conversations between him and psycho private, unless it concerns my safety, or the safety of the kids.

Lives of step parents are exactly that, their lives! There is absolutely no reason why we should have to be dragged into conversations unless risk of safety is involved. I am tired of her; therefore, I am going to do my BEST at deleting her from my life. Yes I understand the kids will be there saying something about 'mommy', but atleast it'll be from a kids perspective: innocent.

WSM