You are here

Most of the time, SS16 is pretty reasonable...

Smokey_Bear's picture

But last night, my lord. He has a habit of going for naps during the day. When my Darling Boyfriend goes to wake him up for supper, it's usually a holler up the stairs. We get a grunt or something in return, and Darling Boyfriend leaves it at that, until an hour has gone by and he tries again. A couple of times I go up to wake him, and I stand in the door until he's at least sitting up, asking a few questions that might get him to think. Therefore, wake up more.

When DB (Darling Boyfriend, unless it has a meaning for something else) lets him sleep, SS16 comes down around 930/10 all pissed off. "Did you even try to wake me up?" Yeah, we did. Last night SS16 gets all pissy saying that, then going on about how he's supposed to have a scheduled eating time and snack time, and now he might as well not eat at all because it's thrown the schedule off.

Then he asks DB to make breakfast sausages. We made Pasta for supper, and there was still plenty left. DB made (IMO) the right call in saying no, that if he wanted them, he could make them himself.

Which turned into "Ten at night isn't exactly a time to be getting a cooking lesson dad, why won't you just make them?"

Thankfully, DB kept his word and stood his ground. But when wee went up to bed, I was in the bathroom and SS16 went into bedroom and I heard him say to DB "Next time when I ask you to make me something, can you just do it instead of dragging it out, I mean, it would have been so much quicker."

Like seriously... There was fucking food in the fridge, you're turning 17 next month, learn to fucking make yourself a meal.

Or, if you won't do that, learn not to nap during the day, and into the night. If you know you need to be eating at certain times, set your alarm. Everyone has those now, as you must since you get up for school on your own. Like seriously...

Comments

Smokey_Bear's picture

Yeah. That's my opinion. You aren't here for supper, you're on your own. Or, as I was raised, you get two choices for dinner:

1- eat it now, or
2- eat it for breakfast and every meal until it's gone.

Smokey_Bear's picture

Yeah... I mean, I get it. SS16 has a lot of mental things going on. BM1 supposedly dying left right and center, his own things with going through the 'trans'ition, school and friend issues, psychologist and doctor appointments everywhere... But there's gotta be a limit... =_=

hereiam's picture

"Next time when I ask you to make me something, can you just do it instead of dragging it out, I mean, it would have been so much quicker."

What did your DB say to this?

From now on, my kitchen would be closed at a certain time to anyone under a certain age.

"Here, have a Tic Tac". How's that for quick?

Smokey_Bear's picture

I didn't hear his response, though he does tend to just ignore comments like that. I get that he's trying to avoid fighting, but... ugh. I did say "We did have pasta downstairs" or something. But whatever. *rolls eyes*

misSTEP's picture

I hope his father responded, "Cereal or a PB&J sandwich is even QUICKER! You are responsible to get your own self to supper at suppertime."

Smokey_Bear's picture

I'm gonna try to talk to him tonight (DB) because he has said in the past that if the kids are hungry past a certain time, they can have a piece of bread, no butter or anything. "If they're truly hungry, and not just stalling, they'll eat it." But I realize this isn't happening with SS16 as it is with SS10 & SS14...

weekendwidow's picture

OMG...I know this is frustrating to you, but for some reason this is hilarious to me. Not because of anything you said or did, but because I just can't believe someone else has a SS like I do too! It's so unbelievable to me that someone is raised to be like that! If i spoke like that to my parents I'd only do it ONCE, because the consequences would've been huge!

My SS is supposed to be with us EOWE when he decides he has nothing better to do. I cook dinner for my family every night. I plan ahead. If there is going to be 3 or 5 people, I need to know so I can take whatever I need out of the freezer or shop, etc. Well, I'm sick of asking my DH if SS17 will be gracing us for dinner every other Friday and getting the usual "I have no idea" answer. So I told DH to let SS know that I cook for 4 people unless otherwise notified. If you don't have the courtesy to let us know your plans by Wednesday, don't expect a meal.

He doesn't come over on Fridays anymore and I couldn't be happier. DISENGAGING is wonderful.

Smokey_Bear's picture

SS14 is like that. He's with us every other week, or is supposed to be. Haven't seen him in months, and SS10 has mentioned that SS14 doesn't leave his room anymore except to get snacks. Otherwise he just plays on his brand new personal Xbox, or one of his two computers, his iPod, and lord knows what else he has... I got frustrated with DB because I ask him every Monday, "Is (SS14) going to be here?" And he shrugs.

Especially not with the custody stuff going on, and BM2 mentioning that DB doesn't seem to care about SS14, I encouraged him to text or call every day to see if SS14 was coming over. I think he did it once. I understand his view, but I don't agree. "I shouldn't have to hound him to find out what I already know. I've reminded him again and again to let me know when he's not coming."

weekendwidow's picture

Always assume he's NOT coming. If he doesn't show - you're ahead of the game. If he does show and things aren't "prepared" for him, too bad. He'll get that he needs to be more courteous or he gets the short end of the stick. They CAN learn... Blum 3

Smokey_Bear's picture

That is pretty h wt we assume, but BM2 (the one we're fighting custody with now) brought up the point that DB never asks where SS14 is, and why he isn't coming, and SS14 'thinks he doesn't care about him' and it looks bad trial wise. *shrug* You can only point things out to the men so many times, right? Blum 3