Bear with me...LOL
OMG...the things I could vent about!!! Let's just start with the fact that I, a professional woman who owns her own home, has landed on her boyfriend's parents' couch...where I will live, along with our 3 young daughters until the greedy ex moves out of HIS house! This woman has been nothing less than a poor excuse for a mother! She drops her kids off where ever she can on the few days they aren't with us and STILL collects $300 a week for child support! Where does that $$ go?? To fund her multiple nights a week out and her expensive car! She works and is very capable of supporting herself had she not decided to live her life pretending to be in a social class that lives WAY above her means! I thought once she "snagged" her wealthy boss, she would be happy and leave us alone, but sheeeee's not...now she wants more money and refuses to leave his house until she gets it! Therefore, we are forced to live at his parents' house to be closer to his kids...why do my kids and me have to be the understanding ones while this money hungry selfish person continues to manipulate everyone around her?!? Its turning me into the bitter person I never wanted to be and ruining my relationship with my boyfriend. Grrrrr...
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Are they still
Are they still married?
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Only because she has dragged
Only because she has dragged out the divorce trying to get more money from him. He is an amazing father who would love to have the kids all the time (we do have them 3-4 days a week) and she takes advantage of his dedication to them to get what she wants. I know he feels guilty that their marriage didn't work and try to be understanding, but SHE'S the one who cheated and is with the man yet won't move on. Meanwhile, I am the idiot who gets to listen to the kids (5 and 7) say stuff like "mommy says your babies are bad and daddy wasn't thinking of us when he made them" and "we still love u even though mommy said you're the reason her and daddy breaked up". Who does that to a kid?!?
a crazy psycho---there are a
a crazy psycho---there are a lot of them out there.
I never thought of myself as
I never thought of myself as naïve, but this woman continues to shock me with a level of selfishness I never knew existed!
my question is the same, and
my question is the same, and why are you living there? why not live in YOUR house?
Haha, we came here because
Haha, we came here because we've been driving 3 hours a day to bring the kids to school and the babies to their sitter and didn't want to continue to risk the weather all day. I've had to rent my house to supplement some income because he has been paying her entire mortgage for Þhe last 2 years and I can't afford to keep paying mine and raise my newborn triplets. :/
oh I see. Well I know what I
oh I see. Well I know what I would do if I were you. But it seems like you want to stick with him so I will keep it to myself
It does make him sound
It does make him sound really bad and I would give the same advice, but he really is an amazing guy...needs to grow a pair, but amazing in all other aspects! I did, however, make sure he knew that this whole living in limbo thing is temporary and that he can move back in with his ex until he gets his crap together if it lasts more than a month. I can always move back to my house and am fully capable of raising my girls alone.
Just a quick one and this is
Just a quick one and this is my first post but I have been reading the blog's and a lot of the time it seems that the common theme is that the DH needs to step up to the plate.
I am also a BM and a step mother but I can tell you that I would never have got away with carrying on that way with my ex. I try very hard to look at both sides BM and SM before I get angry at the behaviour of the BM in my scenario but she holds DH and my life to ransom depending on the mood she is in. My opinon and I say it with all respect is, what about you?. You have tiny babies, this is a hard time in your life. We have all been hurt and angry before but to act in this manner and to fill childrens heads with those kinds of things against you is cruel. I hope your ok
With staying in the house
With staying in the house (wasn't it their house rather then his house?) and trying to get c.s. she is doing what she probably thinks is right for her kids. You have the option to do the same for yours if you feel living on the couch is not working. While I can understand why she would be bitter that he had kids with someone else while still married to his wife I think she is wrong to make those statements to the kids. There's no getting around that is not the way to handle it.
She doesn't actually STAY at
She doesn't actually STAY at the house. She keeps her stuff there, so that we can't. She actually stays with her boyfriend 20 miles away, but uses the house as storage (and a pawn). She gets child support already...$300 a week, plus half of daycare, his parents pay for private school AND he pays her mortgage. To top this ridiculousness off, they make comparable amounts of money. She's manipulating a system set up to battle "deadbeat dads" and he is far from a deadbeat.
How long have they been
How long have they been seperated? And when did the two of you get together?
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“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”
Couple years for both. They
Couple years for both. They had both moved on before separating.