She is making staying out of it SO hard when she is so retarded. She dropped the Boy off today - SS4 crying as usual - both completely drained and tired. That I can over look because I have just come to expect it.

But what BF found in SS4 school bag out right angers me. There was a note - written as if it was from SS4, for the teachers/bus drivers so they know what bus to put him on when. Attached was a calender much like the one that I made and hand BF handed to the teacher. With which weeks were which parents accept hers didn't have the phone numbers of BOTH parents on it like mine did.

The letter went like this:
________________________________________________________________

Dear 'school name' and bus service,

My name is 'SS4'. I am a special needs student at 'school name'. I ride a lot of buses! I don't have very good communications skills so my mommy is helping me write this letter so you can help me get to and from school safely.

Attached to my letter is a schedule of mommy and daddy weeks so you know where I am supposed to go. I have a tag on my back pack that lets you know what week it is too just in case. Here are my bus numbers and the addresses I should go to:

Mommy's week:
(information)

Daddy's week:
(information - but the drop off place was WRONG, we talked to the bus service about dropping him off at the bus stop with SS6. BM said we couldn't but the bus people said they could)

If you have questions or aren't sure of where I belong please call my mommy at (her place of employment) her numbers are: (incert numbers)

She will be able to tell you where I belong.

Thank you

Love,
(ss4)

In case of emergency call Grandma (BM's mom)
_________________________________________________________

So having read that would you ever send a letter like that to your child's school and (b)think it was wrong of BF (with my help since he knows nothing about computers) to re-write it to contain BOTH parents contact information (as well as mine for an emergency contact on BF's weeks) and we cut out all the 'crap'. They don't need to know that he is 'special needs' or that he had 'poor communications skills'. They just need to know where to drop him off and when.

Also we are keeping her original letter, since if we send it back ours will just disappear (which is may anyway - so I saved it, in case I need to re-print it) and it kind of shows that BM is crazy and loves to tell everyone that SS4 is 'special'. FYI, the doctors are in the process of proving that he DOESN'T have an issue - they ruled out Autism but BM still claims that he has it.

Meanwhile BM has convinced SS6 that he wants to join Cub Scouts, which would be fine but she was completely on board with Karate last year but hasn't taken him once yet. BF told SS6 no, unless your mother plans to take you this time.

On a side note I did talk to BF about some issues we have been having, yeah he doesn't get it. We were talking about babies (again) i told him that I thought HE hadn't thought this all the way through (something he accused me of awhile back). I was honest and told him that I would never love his kids as much as I would love my know. And there would be a clear difference in the way I treated them if we had a baby. He disagreed and told me that I would have to be impartial. I flat out told him I couldn't. I mean I would try but push come to shove and in the heat of the moment I would side with my child. I also explained that I loved him but hated BM so that made the boys neutral territory, since they came from both - and ACT like both at times. When the conversation turn unpleasant for him he changed the subject.

When the boys got dropped off SS4 was crying and I snapped at him to 'knock it off' which does make his stop since it's all just an act any way. BF snapped at me for yelling so I walked away until BF came running with that stupid letter, he was clearly upset which turned into what do you want me to do about it. No point int talking to BM so I just fixed the stupid letter. End of story for now.