I still wanna smack BM
Of course SS6 loves to talk - maybe a little too much at times and does not know when he should stop talking. Cases in point...
Last time we had the boys SS6 went on and on about not having to sit in a booster seat in BM's man's Truck. He felt like such a big boy. The issues is according to STATE law SS6 is not big enough to ride without a booster seat. In our state kids much be in a booster seat until the are 8 years old OR over 80lbs OR over 4ft. 9 in tall. SS6 is NONE of those. So I got upset and explained to SS6 that - even though he is a big boy - he is not big enough to ride with out a booster seat and he could get BM and her man in trouble. Of course he tried to argue with me but I just repeated the facts. Of course there isn't anything that I can do about it, BF could maybe fight with her about it, but BM is just going to lie about it any way. I will laugh when they get a ticket. I so wish I could 'Anonymously' inform the police - lol. But SS6 still talks about it and brags. I don't think BM realizes that he could get her in trouble if he tells the wrong person. SS6 is excited about it and doesn't realize it's not something to brag about.
This week he has been boasting that BM let's him play a game that is rated E10+ (For everyone 10 years and up). He says it's really easy and he already beat the first level. I told him he should be playing that game and BF nearly flipped with he found out. But again what can you do. I don't think BM realizes that the ratings on those are there for a reason and it has nothing to do with difficultly of the game, but the games content may be unsuitable for kids under 10. Can he play them and probably bet them yes, but should he no. As some one that likes games I don't even play 'rated' games when he is around me, even though HE tells me that it it okay if I do. 
Is it the end of the world NO, but it's annoying becuase...
I forgot SS6's lunch (twice) last school year and she flipped out about what a bad 'mother' I was, oh and I gave SS4's class bouncy balls (choking hazards she called them). Seriously, like she is any better than me letting her child be unsafe in a truck and play age inappropriate games. I do think that BF should 'comment' on these things in the NOTEBOOK BM gave him for taking notes on the boys. That way it doesn't have to be an argument just a "hey I know what you did" kind of thing. Will she change NO, but there is some comfort in knowing that you at least said something to her about it if she ever take us to court. And yeah I keep a 'digital' copy of that note book just in case come court time it 'disappears'.
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I would make copies for sure.
I would make copies for sure. Every page, every visit. You better believe it!
no car seat two times. this
no car seat two times. this is the 2nd time that my daughter has told me she wasent in a booster seat in her dad's car. i asked him 2 times and he swears she is "buggin out", she was afraid to tell me so i know that she wasent lying. i asked him to take a pic of this alledged booster seat and he told me to "fuck off, he aint gotta do shit" i used to keep a book and write everything down. brought it to court with me a few times, they dont give a shit.
the next time bm drops off the kid of picks up the kid make sure you or your bf walk him out to the car and check for the booster seat yourself, no seat, NO GO!! thats my rule
My SSs6 watch NCIS with their
My SSs6 watch NCIS with their mom, also are taken to every single movie that comes out no matter the rating....in her custody time, they eat and sleep horribly, no rules, no schedule, no discipline, no consistency, and yet I am the spawn of Satan in her opinion as moms go. And you can bet that she calls me out on every little thing- real or imaginary! But yet there is no way of DH expressing concerns to her- she will NEVER entertain the idea that she is anything but a FANTASTIC mother!!!
OMG do we have the same BM?
OMG do we have the same BM? lol
I know this is going to be
I know this is going to be unpopular here-but I think this is one of the problems in divorced families. Both sides nitpicking over every single thing. The ratings on video games and movies are suggested guidelines-not laws-if parents chose to allow their children to view those things then they should be able to as this is still a free country. In your family, you may think it is wrong and that is ok, in her family she thinks it is ok. IMO, I think it is better if you dont tell him he shouldnt be playing that game-again it is a parenting difference and you are essentially telling him his mom is wrong to let him play it-when again it is not against the law-it is just a recommended guideline. He is not going to think you are awesome for following video game guidelines instead it is just going to bother him that you are criticizing his bm and he is going to take her side not yours. If you dislike those sorts of games perhaps your focus should be on playing with him all the games you feel are appropriate in your home and talking to him about why you think those games are so good for him without ever saying a word about his bm or what he plays at her house.
And I am not a proponent of violent video games-my son, 12, does not play grand theft auto-but I dont necessarily think that every parent that chooses to let their child play these games is a bad one. Nor do I think it is a custody issue. The court is not going to care about M rated games, r movies, staying up late, or eating junk food. These are battles you will never win and I feel like the more you tell him he shouldnt be doing those things at the bm's house then the more he will feel loyal to bm and turn against you and the less he will tell you.
My guess is that court doesnt care that much about booster seats for 6 year olds either. Perhaps if you think it is a big enough safety concern then you can just send his booster with him on visits-you can take him out and buckle it into the car and it can stay there until you go pick him up and grab the booster when you do. Should you have to do that? Well, probably not-bm should provide her own booster-but if safety is your main issue then letting her borrow it is not that big of deal, is it?