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Sia's picture

WTF is wrong with people. I know I find myself asking this question a lot, but seriously.... what is wrong with people?

Here DH and I are raising SD21s children, and their parents have the nerve to get shitty b/c I woke them up this morning? Really? You CAN'T be serious, can you? Wow! Takes nerve, real nerve!

Most of you are aware that we've had SD21s children for a week now. Two yrs and 2mos. We had to take little girl (2) to the doc yesterday b/c of strange behavior she was having by not sleeping, etc. From what we described to doc, she said the little girl is having night terrors, likely from being abused, and seperation anxiety. I am not surprised. Poor little girl. The baby is 2mos, so he's up about every 4hrs to eat, etc.; but little girl wakes up about every hour screaming relentlessly, and can't be consoled. Doc says not really much you can do about it, it will run it's course. I'm calling in some favors next week and getting her into an old family friend, who is a psychiatrist. He works with small children. She/we can't keep going on like this.

Anywho, the court ordered the parents to provide us with anything the children should need. The first day we had them, they brought over stuff, the next several days, it was a fight. Which is the case today. We were also ordered to allow them visitation. We have, much to my chigrin. I've cooperated, probably a little too much. So, they've only called us twice to see the kids. The first time, the children's father wanted to "make up" etc. DH accepted his olive branch. I did not, for this very reason. I wasn't rude to him, just holding my cards close, and I needed more time to get over things. I would've come around in my own time. Now, I doubt I ever will.

They sent DH a text Wednesday which included their work schedule, so that we could work out a visitation schedule. We decided Tuesday and Thursday nights. Tuesday went fine, Thursday, DH had to umpire a few games, so I told him no way would I allow them to come to the house while he wasn't there. Ya know? So, we explained and told them we'd work around their schedule for Friday and poss Saturday since we had to cancel Thursday. So, they got off work at 8pm yesterday. We needed diapers and some clothing and sent them a text and tried calling multiple times to tell them that they could come to visit for a bit when they got off, and drop off needed items. They never called/text back.

So, DH and I BOTH have tried calling them multiple times this AM to set a visitation schedule for today. We are trying to make weekend plans, etc. No answers to calls/texts. It was pissin me off, so I sent a text that read:
Me: your avoidance is starting to piss me off
Them: your calling is pissing me off
Me: Really? NICE!
Me: your uncooperation won't bode well for you

Then the arsehole calls me and says:
Him: WTF is your problem?
ME: really? Seriously? We've been trying to get a hold of you since yesterday...
Him: over diapers????? (snotty tone)
me: yeah, and over visitation
him: we've already worked that out, tuesday & Thursdays
ME: (fuming at this point).... FINE! You know what, you go back to sleep and enjoy your sleep as I have been up with YOUR children all night! Then I hung up.

So then I sent another text that read:
"you are their parents and YOU should be providing what they need, and YES, that INCLUDES diapers!" "you know what, I'm done. We wont call you anymore for anything, if you desire visitation, YOU will have to make those arrangements!"

Havent' heard anything more. I swear some freakin people really have a set, don't they?
I mean, in my thinking, if I had my children taken away, I would be at your beck and call. Apologizing all over the place for your inconvenience, etc. Offering to mow your lawn, clean your pool, wash your cars, etc....whatever! Not them! I would even be offering to sleep on your couch to get up with the children at night if that's what it took! Not these assholes!
GEEZ! Calgon, take me away!

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anonomom's picture

Well, in the end all you can do is try your best to keep those innocent little babes away from those selfish POS's! What you are doing is a wonderful thing for those children! I am sorry for what you are going through, but quite learly these ppl do not deserve to be parents let alone know how! Which is why their children have been taken away in the first plae. The less they have to do with those kids probablly the better.... and the more they screw up the better ase there will be in court to keep them away from the kids! Good luck! Stay strong and remember you are the better person in all of this!

Crizzle's picture

The girls' BM was the same way with us. She had no shame in the fact that she had lost custody of her children and had only supervised visitation. If she missed one, she'd try to blame us when she talked to the children or social workers. Funny though, we always had her on speakerphone (as per orders from the girs' therapist) and were able to interject the call at that point. The bitch has never once apologized to her girls for what she has put them through and still has not seen or talked to them since that one visit the weekend after DH got custody. It is probably what is best for the girls. I wish I lived closer, so I could come give you some back-up and a helping hand. I'd be all over that like white on rice in a glass of milk on a paper plate in a snowstorm! Dirol You are a strong lady and those children have been put in your care for a good reason...it may not be good for you, but you know it is for them. I don't care much for my SD's and they have caused me LOTS of stress, but I am glad they are here and we know they are safe and learning what life is like when people work and don't mooch off of welfare. Maybe I won't hate them as adults as a result of the better influence we are giving them. Wink
Good luck sweetie. PM me anytime on here or FB.

no fairytale's picture

Night Terrors are horrible to deal with. When my son was 2 he also had them. He out grew them around the age of 4.
The worst thing you can do is touch a child during a night terror. I did much research on this due to my son.
They should only last about (hopefully) 5 to 10 mins. they are inbetween sleep and can not wake up.
I would just sit and watch him and cry because there was nothing I could do to help.
Many times he would be yelling my name and I could not help. (awful feeling)

Hopefully she will get over them quickly. There are medications for this but, I did not feel there was enough research on medications at the time.

You are doing a great thing in helping and no it probably will not be appreciated. But, just know you are.

Good Luck