Oh God and this makes my heart skip a beat because my SD11 is boy crazy and likes boys. My husband is literally going grey over raising a daughter and sometimes I have to laugh. I told him she is a girl and she WILL like boys. However, because BM is a real slut and has no morals and I was raised with very high morals...i never even started dating or even held hands with a guy until I was 21 ( my parents scared the ever loving Christ out of me about getting pregant before I was married )I had a little talk with my SD. I told her she was a beautiful and intelligent girl who is very much loved. And she should have high respect for herself and others. And if a boy does something to her or talks to her in a way that is not appropriate or touches her in a way that is WRONG then she is to tell an adult and tell him to stop. She started her period about a month ago and FREAKED OUT she was screaming. Apparently her mother never talked to her about that. All her mother said was " once you start bleeding down there your a woman". Like WTF kind of talk is that. So here is little old me...going through evertything with her i explained why this was happening, what was happening, all that stuff. Long comment made short, i feel if a child is educated and well informed they can make sound choices. Explain to your SD that these actions, although may seem innocent to her, that kissing, touching and sex are not ways to get boys to like her and others may see her in a not so nice light. She should be taught that if she likes a boy, she should have respect for herself in order for him to respect her. The battle is huge, I seen my mother go through it with my eldest sister who got pregant at 18, dropped out of school and is still struggling even though she is 38 today. I pray for you and I pray you find the right words to get through to her, right now she is thinking with her hermones ands her boy crazy brain. My husband alsmot had a heart attack when he founf out his 11 year old daughter was "dating" someone.

Purpleflower

OMG - I also pray you find the right words to tell her and that she receives them well. Her actions now could lead to a very troublesome teenage life and early adulthood.

I hope she grows out of that and puts the breaks on sexuality at that age.

I don't know what else to say on that other then letting her know the dire consequences from her actions.

********She doesn't have to love me or even like me - it doesn't change a dang thing..... So get over it and move on BM!************

AND...just to add...BM's husband ( they are now divorced) says to my husband one day " you know your daughter is going to screw some guy one day so get used to the idea" Only he did not use the word "screw" he used another prfane name. It's a good thing my husband was 3 hours away because he would have dropped kicked him in the skull for saying that about his young daughter.

Purpleflower

SoTired1

The first thing comes to my mind is Meningitis Immunization for Adolescents. Can you say, "Meningococcal?" Call me old-fashioned but that's just too much kissing for me to digest. There's a name for females that behave the way your SD15 is behaving & she's the type of girl that young adolescent boys enjoy meeting. I've had this talk with my god-daughter (who listened) & my SD18 who did not listen. My words consisted of this. . . "god-daughter (SD18), you only have one-name & one-opportunity to keep your name clean. Once it's tarnished, you'll always be remembered as that girl who. . this or that!" I told them that even if they turned their lives around after their school years, they'd always be remembered as the girl who put-out that the reputation would always follow them. I told them that these young boys were merely experimenting with girls in school (gathering notches in their belts) & that they shouldn't fall prey to this type of behavior. Your SD15 sounds like she's just a fast little girl. Something is missing in her life & she's striving for attention in any way possible. It appears that all parents involved have taken many actions to help their child to no avail. SD15 has to want & realize that her behavior is not good & harmful to herself. Just for the record, my first-cousin died last year (at the age of 36); full-blown AIDS. She was 18-years-old when she was diagnosed HIV-positive. She kept her secret to herself for all those years (not even telling her mother), we never knew. And guess what, she was fast too. By the way, 'fast' means easy, puts-out to a variety of guys. That's not a good way to be; it's too much out there to be contracted (HIV/AIDS does not age-discriminate). If I were you, I would seriously look into having her vaccinated; Meningitis Immunization for Adolescents (Meningococcal). It does not prevent HIV/AIDS, therefore, I would have a long talk with her about her risky behavior. Good luck to you.

I would ask SD15 what she hopes to get out of kissing these boys? Is she just having fun, does the attention make her feel loved? If its the latter, Dad needs to talk to her some more about what goes on in boys horny minds. Its not love that's for sure. If its fun she's seeking then one can only reiderate so much about the consequenses of being known as easy. Maybe kick it up a notch by mentioning that those girls reputations will become known to those that can really hurt her. Crazy boys can stoop to very seedy levels and there are all kinds of substances that can land her in serious danger.

Perhaps a daddy-daughter date could give her an idea how she should be treated by the opposite sex. On that note, there should time set aside often for SD15 to spend time with her Dad only. Almost every friend of mine who waited out the boy-crazy phase had fathers who put aside time for just them periodically. If Dad is already doing this then maybe more often. Good luck and keep us posted dear.

She likes attention, and even negative attention is fine by her. More therapy is needed.

People escalate and as she gets older she may sleep around.

Kudos to you Shell97. SD15 can relate to you and you're setting great example for her.