So SS now 18 today, happy birthday to him is moving into his apartment this weekend more than likely.  His mommy got him the apartment and will be paying the rent for the first couple of months.  SS has no job and hasn't finished high school yet.  He's at home playing video games and sleeping and probably binge watching Netflix with his sister and mom when mom isn't sleeping or working.  He is in my opinion classic bipolar and it has been suggested.  He has mild autism, anxiety and depression.  In the three and half years he has lived with his dad and me he takes his medication for a bit, stops, crashes and sleeps all day rarely showering or even changing clothes.  We had to throw away some sheets because he never washed them.  When I suggested that this wasn't normal behavior , DH said sure it is, everyone I've talked to experiences the same thing.  Um ok.  Well BM comes to town due to the pandemic and hasn't seen son for about a year.  He had lost 30 pounds and really looked back.  But remember , I was the crazy one and there was nothing wrong.   He is taken to the Dr. actually by DH for a routine physical and was diagnosed with a thyroid problem.  Hello, I wasn't crazy and it wasn't normal.  Needless to say BM came to town to help get him back on track.  She and I are probably united in the fact that this wasn't normal and that there was indeed a problem.  Probably for a lot longer than DH thought. Anyho, hanging with friends it is decided they should get an apartment together, what a great idea BM and DH think, he's ready for this.   So a apartment is rented .  He just hasn't finished high school , have a job and has just turned 18.  Roommate is more than likely in the same boat if it is one of the friends he has been hanging out with. 

About a week ago DH had reported that SS had lost the apartment because of his medical marajuana. Then this morning he announces that SS will be moving into his new apartment.   Now he just can't smoke in the apartment.     

So does this sound like a good idea yet.   Oh yes, mommy will be going back to California and SD will be moving back in with DH and me, but that's another story.  She is 22 and also has no job, no driver's license (partly due to the pandemic) and mostly stays in pajamas and binge watches Netflix or sleeps.

Now that brings me to my vent, DD is 23 and is looking for an apartment with a friend.  They have put in several applications, background checks etc in order to get a apartment, a house ,a mobile home something.   The roommate has a full time job and my daughter has a part time job along with the ability to pay her portion of the rent.  (She has been saving for years) They have been unsucessful and BM goes out and gets this apartment in a week for her darling lilttle boy.

Some background.  Around Thanksgiving SS ran away into the night after not forgetting to take his medication.  We are still receiving the bills from the ER visit, the stay in the pysch ward , ER visit from the psych ward etc.  He also when he lived with his dad and me slept all day and rarely if ever ate.  He pays nothing, mommy is paying for the gas, car insurance, medical appointments, clothes, food etc.   I don't know about the roommate and DH doesn't seem to know much more.   The apartment is located in a bit of questionable part of town, police sirens, calls about people in back alleys etc.   Perfect for two boys who smoke weed legally now, except in the apartment.

Ugh, this is so frustrating.   I"m deciding if I want out.