Is This Weird?
DH has been home for about a month now, so last week I finally removed Killjoy's profile off our Netflix. I'm a very private person and I was happy to stop sharing with her. I hated 'seeing' her every time I logged on, and I hated sharing an account with her because of how snarky AF she was about every little thing I did, including my tv choices. I watch a lot of nerdy sci-fi shows, and also documentaries and true crime programs. Back when she lived with us, she'd snort or scoff when surfing past my watchlist. Paradoxically, if a show isn't vapid AF, it's 'stupid' to her.
Saturday, my netflix profile was kinda jacked, there were a bunch of shows in my continue list that I hadn't watched, but I thought GD11 did that when she was here. Killjoy has her own apartment now, and DH did not give her our passwords.
Apparently, her firestick remembered the passwords when she logged into wifi at her new place. Sunday, Killjoy created a new profile for herself, not under her own name, but as her new_household_with_roommates. You know, because of course I'd love to share my profile with complete strangers. But also, I'm sure her tv is in her bedroom, so she was just trying to float something new. ETA: she's probably not sharing her tv with anyone, she just thought I'd be more sympathetic to her roommates.
So I logged into netflix on my tablet and booted her. And I had to work up the nerve to involve poor DH, because I'd forgotten our netflix password. He didn't argue, but any conflict upsets him right now, and he said his heart was racing. I'm trying to be gentle with him. He's a new empty nester, and he's grieving Killjoy's trashing of what could have been our great family. The separation was hard on both of us.
Once booted off netflix, she immediately started binging hulu on our one shared profile. I didn't want to upset DH, so I let that go on for several hours before I got pissed off and snuck upstairs where I keep the password for hulu, and booted her off there as well.
It's like....read the room azzhole. Obviously we don't want you on our streaming services anymore. You've been told you're banned from our property. Take a hint. Wtf.
ETA: To be clear, I know it was okay for me to boot her, I just found her behavior oddly aggressive.
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Normal
If she thinks she has a good relationship with her dad, completely normal. My SKs and I have a great relationship, so I have absolutely no issue if they want to piggyback on one of our subscriptions to watch a series or catch a show. If I said no, they would completely understand, but I don't mind sharing as it costs me nothing and helps them while they're young and on a tight budget (yes I know, we're not supposed to share).
That being said, my SKs don't mock me and then expect favours from me. So if she knows it's funded by you, and she's mocked you, that's entitled. If it's funded in her mind by Dad, and she has a good relationship, she probably didn't even think twice (nor did he) about being allowed to share.
Netflix (as of a month or two
Netflix (as of a month or two ago) started charging extra for password sharing at multiple locations
what if you have two homes..
what if you have two homes.. or watch it at work and at home? is it one location at a time? or just if they see different locations period.?
I don't mind
It's not a big expense (I think it's $60 a year) so I don't mind covering it. It's like a Christmas present that lasts all year
I would think her profile
I would think her profile removal was her first indication. The fact that the new profile wasn't her name, but an attempt to gain sympathy on behalf of "the_sports_team_girls" she lives with, when the tv is most likely in her own bedroom, demonstrates to me that she knew better. And then we booted her. Twice.
DH told her she destroyed our family, and he didn't appreciate it.
There seems to be a lot of emotional stress
triggerd by moocher killjoy.
Do you feel better now that that particular tie to her has been severed? I know when I texted SD23 Feral Forger my words, then blocked her I felt an immense weight come off. Sometimes its the small things.
Yes, thank you, it was very
Yes, thank you, it was very triggering. She's very aggressive and relentless, about everything, all the time. She was stalkerish toward me when she lived here. I just wondered if I was making something of nothing.
DH and I need some peace to recuperate.
Blocking FF was the right thing to do. I hope that means you don't have to hear from her again.
yes!
And it goes both ways. She is not ever going to here from me again either. She can of course borrow a phone and call my number, but I doubt that will happen. Shes gone completely no contact. Which is great.
I don't think it's weird.. I
I don't think it's weird.. I think it's a symptom of entitlement.. that she doesn't equate her relationship with the benefits of it.. like being on your parent's netflix or phone plan etc.. no relationship? no benefits.
OSDthe14 lost access to my
OSDthe14 lost access to my Netflix once it was clear she wasn't coming back.
I changed the password and that was that. DH agreed with me.
She is sharing an apparent
Her and the roommate can pay for Netflix themselves. That part of growing up. Hope you are not paying for her cellphone