What is so wrong with spending the weekend apart? You be with your kids and I'll be with mine.
This weekend we're supposed to go camping. Okay, sounds great, but my 16 y/o BD is not feeling well and she gets kinda bored when we go camping anyway. Usually, she'll just stay home and we go without her, but this weekend I would rather stay with her and let FH go with the skids. Whenever we go camping all I ever hear is "can we drive the golf cart?" "can we go to the store?" "whose turn is it to drive the golf cart?" "she drove the last time!" "she drove for 42 more seconds than I did!"
They're pretty well behaved kids, but the only thing they like to do is drive the golf cart and spend money at the store.
It drives me nuts and it drives my BD nuts too and so we would like to stay home and just let FH and the skids go. My FH says if I don't go then nobody goes.
What is the big freakin' deal?!
I swear, my FH thinks that we always have to do everything together! He's perfectly sweet and I love him to death, but sometimes it's good to spend some quality with your children without any other parents around.
Do you guys agree with me?
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Sounds like FH doesn't want
Sounds like FH doesn't want to have to deal with Skids alone. If your daughter is not feeling weel, then I would stay home with her. Your BD comes first. Don't let FH put this off on you like its your fault nobody goes.
My dh is the same way...I
My dh is the same way...I love to go to the local high school football games with the kids, he doesn't really like too. I try to convince him to stay home, but he would rather go and be a bump on a log.
I think it is good for them to have time with skids by themselves, they need bonding time just like you need the alone time with just your daughter.
I say send him away camping and you and your daughter have some good girl time. Lock him out if you have to!!!
...the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it. - The Lion King
my dh pulls a similar stunt.
my dh pulls a similar stunt. He expected ChooChoo and I to putz around til him and sd11 got back from her various activities then we'd all do something family oriented. I threw a fit bc, what if I want to be out longer with ChooChoo without a damned time limit just bc you and your kid have finally arrived back home???? That means I'm suppose to rush back just to meet you there?? seriously...annoying.
He does the same thing with our vacation house...if choochoo and I don't want to go NO one goes. It's so stupid. BUT we'd be bitching if they didn't want us around so I just do my thing and try not to adhere to sd11's schedule anymore and I refuse to fight with DH about "why weren't you guys back sooner we could have done something when I got back from taking sd to xyz activities..." I just let it go now.
I think you're perfectly within your right to make a choice to stay home with your kid if you want to. He's probably in panic mode at the thought of spending so much one on one time with his kids...MY Dh likes ChooChoo and me around as sort of a "parental buffer" for sd11. She hassles him less, whines less,babytalks less,etc...when others are around. Plus she needs round the clock stimulation due to inability to entertain herself so having others around takes pressure off him to entertain her and be interested in her constantly.
Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others. ~Buddha
He may have taken it
He may have taken it personally. Both DH and I agree that spending some quality time alone with each of our own kids is important and sometimes quite serene! We agreed that when we moved in together that we would set aside some time for each of us to have our time alone with our own kids. Sometimes when DH decides he wants to do something with just his children, I kinda take it personal, asking myself well why don't you want *us* to go??? But that's just my emotional side getting the best of me, I enjoy spending alone time with my kids, so he should be able to do the same. Or it could also be that he would like some adult companionship. The best memories I have of camping were late at night when the kids had fallen asleep, and the adults were out by the campfire laughing and talking. Great memories!
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I agree with you. My
I agree with you. My solution would be like this:
Me: Ok, hon. We'll meet you there.
Me: Sorry, babe, we're running soo late.
Me: I'm beat. We are going to come in the morning.
etc.etc.etc.
I'm pure evil.
"Courage is fear holding on a minute longer." General George S. Patton
I agree with you. But that
I agree with you.
But that may not help your case around here
Spend some QT with your respective children... not everything has to be the "WE ARE A FAMILYYYYYY" show.
I would get the same kind of
I would get the same kind of treatment. Recently, I was told I did not bond with his kids. That is why he didn't have feelings for me anymore and we recently split. I would take my daughter to a movie on Sundays now and then, without his kids because she is 20 and likes r-rated veryscary slasher type. He took it as , we didn't want to be with him and his kids. I thought I was being loving to him and his children by allowing them quality time together with Dad. Little did I know that this would blow up in my face.
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