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I can't believe a word anyone in this house says....

Runaway's picture

So I'm in a predicament. (Always, right?) My dog allegedly bit ss10's mouth and bloodied his lip.

She's never put her teeth on anyone's face before (she's almost 2)

She had grabbed hands and I was training her out of that, hadn't done the hand grab in at least 2 weeks. She's never drawn blood when grabbing hands. (She likes to pull people places, but not allowed)

I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old that are out with her all the time, she's never bit either of them. 4 year old gets overzealous and she still hasn't harmed him.

He's tall enough that the way he claims it went down (she jumped up and bit his mouth) isn't possible. He's too tall, she couldn't jump high enough at the right trajectory to have done that. In fact, the only way this seems remotely feasible is if he tried to get her to take a stick out of his mouth)

He claimed DH's dog bit him repeatedly a couple years back (which we knew for a certainty wasn't the truth) until I told him we'd have to put the dog down if it was biting people.

He's a notorious liar. For years.

Problem is, if for once he's telling the truth and this dog bites someone... it's a major liability.

If he was on the ground she may have scratched him, she does paw- working on it...but the mark looked like a cracked lip..like chapped crack and bleed- and they were chapped. It wasn't red around the area, it was just a very small cut/crack and bleeding.

As it is he's not going to be allowed outside without an adult if the dogs are outside. At least until I figure out what to do.

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bearcub25's picture

I had a dog bite my lip once. I was 3rd grade, carrying the dog and he bit me, school pics the next day so I have that memory forever.

Anyway, my whole lip and cheek were swollen and there were distinct bite marks right above my upper lip. Have to look at the pic again, but it was very noticeable and didn't look like a cracked lip.

Runaway's picture

I said to H, maybe she pawed him and split his lip- but shouldn't it have at least been red?

He's been taught how, and as long as an adult is standing there staring at him, he's 10. My 4 year old can go out alone as long as I know and can peek out now and then.

Runaway's picture

She's like a 50 pound dog. Lol. there's no way that her biting him wouldn't have made a serious mark- even a nip.

He's not very nice, I've caught him mistreating animals before. My reaction is never pretty. I thought we were done with that.

On the up-side...if there is one, H agreed with me immediately that something wasn't right about that and he flat-out told ss he didn't buy the story. So SS isn't allowed to go outside when she's out there without H or I anymore.

Runaway's picture

Yeah, totally didn't add up. H mentioned that SS had really chapped lips. So I'm betting he got bumped by something and she was around and he either decided to blame her, or else he got down on the ground and she pawed him, splitting the lip where it was chapped. No way that was a bite though

Runaway's picture

I agree. He started up a few years ago saying DH's dog bit him over and over every time he came here. That dog was totally incapable, and there were never any marks seen on him. We had it out multiple times over that. Thought it was over... guess not. So he ends up losing his freedom to play outside without an adult's direct supervision.

So she gets to be outside whenever she wants. He can't.

Runaway's picture

fantastic idea- except they're going to ask what dog bit him. The answer would be ours, ours has had her shots. Both dogs have. So they won't do the shots. We could say it was a neighbor dog that bit him, but that's lying and seems fairly hypocritical given the circumstance. Add to that I can't stand lying. Other than that- awesome thought!

SecondGeneration's picture

This is such a dangerous situation, your SS has already previously lied about your husbands dog biting him, now he is lying about your dog, but what about when its a friends dog? A neighbours dog?
Ok your husband can see through this because he knows your dogs temprement but SS crying wolf over dog bites is going to end up one way, with a dog dying.

I have to ask, does your SS like dogs? Does he like animals? You mention that he has previously been mean towards animals, so I wonder how you guys dealt with that?

There is absolutely no way that a dog bite or scratch could ever look like a split lip from dried cracking. Just no way, regardless of whether the dog is 10lbs or 50lbs. If you have a large dog then those chances go from miracle to just no.

Your problem is, the more he gets attention from this sort of thing then the more it feeds it, but like most things its a double edged sword because now if that dog does bite or cause damage to ANYONE you guys are super liable (just think how much fun BM will have with that one)

I'd be tempted to be saying to husband and to SS that SS can no longer be around the dog at all. Not just a case of him not being allowed outside with the dog, but anywhere, your dog and your SS cannot be left alone together. Not because the dog is dangerous, but because your SS lies are dangerous.
Plus lets face it, if he had really been bitten hed be nervous/scared of the dog right? He'd also need rabies shots.

But then im a dog lover so id probably be over doing it, but Id be also tempted to take him down to the dog shelter, talk to someone who works there, explain to them the issue you are having over SS clearly lying about dogs biting and let them show him what happens. Let them take him around a dog kennel block and show him all these dogs that have been given up, some because of work commitments, some because of marital breakdown but some because they have bitten or families are now concerned they will bite their child. Let them explain to him that this is where dogs end up and if they arent rehomed then they die.
Its a horrible truth and some may say its incredibly traumatic to confront a 10 year old that way but thats the harsh reality when you have a child that is gambling with life and death.

Justme54's picture

I would fix SS's ass? It seems to be an issue with SS and animals. Keep it simple. He wants to be babied. You know the old say...BE CAREFUL OF WHAT YOU ASK FOR.

Point....DO not let him around ANY animals. IF his friends have dogs, cats or birds, you can not go there...u might get hurt.

This might be a crazy way of thinking on my part. If his life has limited boundaries due to not being in the same room with animals. He might rethink his lying.

I am a BIG animal lover. This really pisses me off.

Thank God, his dad even sees thru his lies.