Well my DH decided to not let SS stay the night on a school night at his BMs. I do not know if it was me or his aunt and uncle but my DH told me he was going to pick SS up on Sunday because it was a school night and SS is doing so much better these past 2 months with potty trainning and not whinning all the time, and just being a 4 year old. DH told BM until she can be civil and until the appeal is over and until she can call his house and not his cell to talk to SS and until her parents stop threatening his life then he can not stay over on a school night. BM told DH that that was funny because at her house SS is always crying and pooping his pants and DH told her he does not do that at our house and he really does not, I can not remember the last time he pooped his pants! He actually went poop at his great aunts house the other day and that is an amazing thing!! SO I think he did the right thing especially after hearing all of the trouble he is having at BMs from her own mouth! BM said his cousin was coming over tomorrow and she would not be there until 6 the time he comes home, so what was going to happen he goes to bed at 8? BM wanted to switch weekends so her and her sister will have their kids on the same weekends but she has never brought it up again and DH is willing to do the switch, but BMs friend also has her kids on the same weekend BM has her son, so that means when they do not have the kids they can go out a party and they do, I have seen them and they put it all over their myspace page and these women are almost 30. So if you all wonder why I get so mad sometimes it is because she calls herself a mom and goes to mommy day, but I am home on the weekends and weeknight, reading books, tucking him in bed, giving him medicine when needed and sometimes I would just like to be out drinking too!!! However I have decided to try and lay off the next time he asks my opinion I am going to try and support his decision, just not on a school night and I hate the fact BM already made plans just thinking DH was going to give her her way, she is sooo used to getting it her way!!!! That was the problem the courts had too, that she would just make all the decisions by herself and not it is not even her choice and she is trying to make the decisions!!!