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Happy Friday - and a post on my FB from DH this morning

RedWingsFan's picture

Happy Friday everyone! I'm in a great mood, despite everything going on with BM and all that bullshit that happened last Friday with SD14.

DH and I had a nice, long talk about everything and bottom line is - we'll get through anything that's thrown at us, as long as we remain committed and devoted to each other.

His Facebook post on my wall this morning (forgive misspellings - he's not the world's best):

I want you to truly take what I am about to say to heart. You have no idea what you have done for me over the last 2 years. You have helped me become a stronger person and help in some of the most difficult times of my life. You have giving me a backbone that I had lost and reminded me that I do have a voice. Without you in my life I would truly be lost in this world. Thank you for everything you do and I truly hope that people in life could experience 1/2 the love we have for each other. I love you more than these words can even begin to say.

Yeah, that's my man. I couldn't be luckier in love!

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love_my_shichi's picture

It's things like this that make it all worth it! And you deserve it for what you have to put up with it seems. What a great way to start the weekend! Hopefully BM is Facebook stalking you and reads it and gets lividly angry. haha.....

RedWingsFan's picture

Really, if he and I didn't have the most perfect relationship, I never would've stayed. He truly is my other half. It took me 2 failed marriages to find him and I won't let him go.

Anon2009's picture

That was nice Smile I like that.

I truly hope your SD can come around to realizing she needs to make changes not just for her dad, but so she can have a much better life. Many people make such changes after they move out of their toxic environments (in this case, BM's house). Then they have some space to figure things out and don't have the toxic people breathing down them constantly. Hopefully she'll come to that realization before she becomes an adult, as that would be better for her. Teens can be really merciless to one another. Maybe it will take some kid(s) her own age taking her attitude down a few pegs.

I think your DH should send her cards every now and then and for special occasions (i.e. Christmas and birthdays) to let her know he loves her, wants the best for her and is thinking of her, but ought to hold off on the gift giving until her behavior improves.

RedWingsFan's picture

Yeah, she's all up her mom's boyfriend's ass and he's buying her love and acceptance. DH refuses to give into that bullshit anymore.

He always sends her a text once a week saying "I love you" and will send her a card for Christmas but unless she comes around FAR before the holiday, will not get her a gift. He's already explained to her several times that relationships are a two way street (and I added, yes, not a parking lot and a highway!). She still refuses to make an effort and it breaks his heart.

Anon2009's picture

"(and I added, yes, not a parking lot and a highway!)" LOL, good line Smile

Unfortunately, I don't see a lot of these PASed kids making an effort at any time in the near future. It takes years to undo this stuff, and SD will probably need the help of a good shrink. Maybe your DH would consider asking the judge to order counseling for SD when he and BM face off in court?

RedWingsFan's picture

Yeah, her mother has definitely done a number on this kid, that's for sure. And she's so dense (SD) that she won't realize it for a very LONG time. What she doesn't get is MY daughter (who lives in Michigan, we're in Colorado) puts in more of an effort to be a part of DH's life than SHE does and she lives 5 miles away! My daughter is more of a daughter to DH than his own and even he realizes and comments about that.

SD's been through counseling before, on our dime, for more than a year. It does no good since all she does is lie to her therapists to get sympathy and attention. We have taken that road and all it led to was a dead end. We're not turning around and doing the same thing again, because likely, we'd end up having to pay for it!

imjustthemaid's picture

I saw that and thought it was so sweet!!! Obviously he really lives and appreciates you very much. I feel like me and DH have that connection too!! It was love at first sight. Sunday is our 5 yr wedding anniversary.

RedWingsFan's picture

Awesome!!! Congrats in advance! If it weren't for SD14, we'd be absolutely perfect in every way. Guess nothing can ever really be perfect eh?

RedWingsFan's picture

Great to hear! Things are hard enough for the most part, as it is, so I figured that even though DH and I are preparing for a court battle against BM - I'd post something happy and try to climb out of my pessimistic hole.

So glad things are very happy! I am not going to allow BM and SD to ruin our holidays or our lives!

amber3902's picture

It may be hell at times, but at least DH knows and appreciates what you have done for him.

Good for you, girl!

RedWingsFan's picture

He amazes me all the time. Last night, I came home after work and he was on the phone with his dad. He didn't hear me come in since he was in the bedroom but I could hear him talking on the phone. He said "dad, I haven't bought Mel flowers and had them delivered to her job in SOOOO long I feel bad, but I just don't have the extra money!. Now that BM (he actually said "BITCH") is going to take me to court for more child support, I don't even know when I'll be able to send her flowers again!"

He's sent me flowers to work on several occasions, sometimes for no reason at all, but it's been awhile since the last delivery. I blogged about it here I was so surprised!

I opened and shut the front door a bit louder so he knew I was home and never said a word about the conversation that I'd overheard.