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Bm did not take her week of custody AGAIn

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Submitted by Razamond on Mon, 04/13/2009 - 10:54pm

There has to be some form of recourse for this - I think DH should file contempt charges against her = this is the second time she has not taken her week of custody since the court gave her back her 50% (every other week). I am really getting tired of this - I had to go stock the house full of groceries - SD is here at least three weeks in a row - no peace for me - my mother is forced to watch her after school for three weeks in a row (at least) no break for her. This is unfair - if BM can't take her week of custody I believe she should be made to pay child support - DH said he might make her take skids all next month to make up for the time but I know he will never do this. I am going to recommend to him that he file a contempt motion for her failure to follow the court ordered custody arrangement. I know she will do whatever it takes to keep from paying child support - my only fear is she will give up one day and we will be stuck with WIT (SD) full custody. God forgive me but she is hateful.

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Submitted by Stuknaz (not verified) on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 4:52am

Sounds like my situation. BM suppose to have kids(teenagers) every other week and we had them for 3 months straight!!! She makes her own schedule and takes them and brings them back when its convenient for her!! I told DH he should go back to court and file for full custody and MAKE her pay child support! DH is on disability and I am the one who buys the groceries and everything else! So not to take the kids when its your week only puts more financially pressure on me because teenage boys eat ALOT! So I feel your pain and understand completely.

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Submitted by doglover1 on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 7:06am

I know exactly how you feel. We went through the same thing. BM always getting out of taking the kid and we still paid her child support. Eventually we took her to court and she didnt even show up. We now have full custody and she gets EOW. WHich by the way she never takes her cus there is no money so she figures why bother. She is a POS!! Yes having the kid (ours is SD8) is especially trying at times.......hardley any breaks and running around looking for sitters.

In your situation it may be different if she doesnt want to pay child support. She may take her daughter for fear of losing money. Also dont let her get away with it. Take her to court. On her days when she says she cant take her, tell you cant either because you have plans! Dont let her get away with it. ITs her daughter let her be responsible!

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Submitted by HummingBirdHunny on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 8:14am

Maybe it's just me but if she wants to to go that route and leave SD with you then just say sure, we'll take her off your hands until she is 18..just sign over your rights and stay the hell away! If she gets mad about that then explain to her that she wanted her 50/50 custody and she got it now she either steps up and gets responsible or give her her share of custody and pay support. I would go straight back to court and let the judge know she isn't following through with her share of the custody agreement and if she isn't going to take SD EVERY week that she is supposed to have her then she shouldn't have her for 50/50 and should be ordered t pay support!

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Submitted by Endora on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 8:31am

This type of behavior had me so frustrated. We got engaged when SS was 14-before all hell broke loose (we ended up with full custody-which is good and bad)-at least ss is old enough that we do not need child care.

BM had week on week off-she could change plans last minute all the time-SS would whine and cry for his dad to pick him up early on HER week (and he would rush to get him)-she and her SO at the time would have some drama and we would have to rush there and pick him up-yet if we dropped SS off 15 minutes early or kept him an hour beyond what we were supposed to there was absolute hell to pay!

I once watched her ream out my now DH in front of his kid, me and her SO for dropping him off 30 minutes late! I was so shocked nothing came out of my mouth :jawdrop:

I now realize she is such a POS because she has mental health issues on top of physical issues that are worsening with age and her non-compliance re Dr. and her meds-mental health is such an invisible disability and very tough to live with-she has reared her head again with her latest life drama-and as usual -it is all about her.....sigh

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