I dropped DW off this AM for her flight back home for the cousin's funeral.

She is in a better place with the end of the Tax season and the culmonation of the cousin's passing.  I worry about her.  Her leg has been tingling/hurting wich apparently may be a precursor to a Shingles flare up.  She has one level of commitment. That is all in. On her career, her personal emotional investments, family, friendships, etc...  She wears herself out.

That worries me.

On an up note, We were lying in bed on Saturday AM and I noticed that one of her HS BFFs had posted pics of the Strip in Las Vegas.  I asked her if she knew were that BFF was, nope. So I showed DW the pics and advised that she contact the friend and we try to get together over the weekend.  They connected and we took DW's friend and the friend's friend to dinner at a nice restaurant at the Aria on Sunday late afternoon.  Then we did a driving tour around the LV valley in the evening before sunset.  When we dropped them off at their hotel DW and the BFF were doing the hug and smile and I and BFF's friend were saying goodbye he leaned and told me that BFF was thrilled that DW got hold of her and was extremely excited to see DW.  When I told DW that on our drive home she was beaming with smiles.  That... made my whole weekend.

I want to be sure to thank everyone for the comments and advice on the prior blog regarding DW's cousin, etc...  I have been putting focus on adjusting my perspective on the things that are frustrating to me while trying  to be supportive on what DW demonstrates as her perspective.  She did point out that I was venting at dinner last night.  I had a rough work day and did transition to worries about the usual IL clan dramas that tend to arrise and asking her to please take care of herself since I will not be there with her this week.  I quickly changed that course of discussion.

The big likely drama this trip to SpermLand.... The deceased cousin's sister will be at the funeral. This cousin has been homeless and heavily into drugs for a couple of decades.  The date of the funeral she will get her 6mo sobriety coin.  I truly hope she can stay the course on her recovery.  And... none of the usual drama arrises.  DW needs a calm week.

Thanks again everyone.

Sincere regards,

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