DH and I have been having this debate for sometime now. Recently it bubbled over into a full on heated argument. Here are the particulars: We inhabit a three bedroom home, ss6 is only here 50% of the time, my ds8 and ss6 cohabitate in one room ds5 has his own room. My ds8 has high functioning autism and needs to literally decompress in quiet in his room. He is also older and will be requiring additional privacy soon. Two years ago when ss was 4 and ds was 6 we purchased said bunk-beds. As NO child under 6 is to be on the top bunk, naturally my ds slept up there. Fast forward two years. The room is small. SS6's clothes hang in an wardrobe which eats up half the room. The closet contains ds clothes as he lives here all the time. DS5 has a bigger room and bigger closet. I want to move ss6 in with him and dh is fighting me bigtime on this. Coming up with any number of lame excuses, like the kids won't get along, they'll keep each other up, blah, blah, blah. But see I now know the real reason dh will not put ss6 in the other room. He refuses to put POC ss6 in the top bunk. He actually said, "I don't think a six year old is ready for it. He may fall out of bed one night and break his arm. What will I do then? And what if he has to go to the bathroom?" OMFG!!!!!!!!! I lost it!!!!!!! Apparently two years ago it was OK for my ds, when he was 6, to climb up and sleep there, risking bodily harm and climbing down to go pee but God forbid POC SS has to!!! So now the gig is up. I called bullshit on him. Told him he was a hyprocrite. He didn't give a flying fuck about my son's well being two years ago, but hold him and his spoiled ass brat to the same standards and it's and I quote, "Unacceptable"!! BTW I shared this story with my parents who now have resorted to calling my dh "King Douche". Yes, my 70+ mother actually called him a douchebag out loud. Gotta love my folks. So in a nutshell, I loathe dh and his bullcrap.