Silence is golden
Could see it coming a mile away. Got nasty call from BM saying "it was legally and morally wrong (what morals for you BM?????) of PH to keep me(BM) from contacting StepDemon last night.SD had no phone to use all night, what if there had been an emergency, she had no way to call anyone. You have no legal authority to leave no phone available." I am sure that DH will have an email and plethora of calls as well.
Yes, I unplugged the answering machine line, so that none of the cordless would work, due to SD outburst and not following rules last night (see prev post). But, there was still a phone in the garage that was available, Grandma lives next door, and we live two blocks from 3 convenience stores. SD17 was home for a total of 45minutes w/out a phone---and I thought she had her cell, though I found out later that DH had taken that away from her the other night and didn't tell me. SD never asked me to call her BM, so I did not deny access. And I know from 8:30pm to 11:30 there was not a single phone call, as I was in basement where I could hear the phone. PLEASE---I know many people who have no phone lines in their houses anymore, only cells. Some cannot even afford phones, so give me a break.
However, I have chosen to not even bother responding to her call---normally I do not, but this evening I was in a great Bible study about SILENCE, and I am definitely going to practice it ALL THE TIME with BM and SD, as it doesn't matter what I may say, they will thing what they want anyway. I know the truth and God knows, and he will even defend me in the end.
SO silence is golden---not only because it was so nice not having the phone ringing all the time last night, but because I do not need to "answer" any accusations to BM or SD.
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Yea, we no longer have a
Yea, we no longer have a house phone for a reason (BM). She would get mad and leave ugly messages and such. This is also a big part of the reason she doesnt have my cell number, the other reason is she got mad when my brother had my phone and talk bad about me to SS's on my cell phone I was paying for the next night.
I used to take to unplugging our phone as well. There would be times when she would not call for months and then all the sudden she would call everynight for a couple of days. Always the same questions,"What are you doing? Did you eat? What did you eat? Did you get more if you wanted more?" Or when school would start she would ask if they got new clothes and what kind and how much? Granted this is the woman who pays nothing for her kids. No CS, no birthday presents, and no Christmas.
Anyway, during one time she did not call for over a month, SS11 (he was probably 7 or 8 then) asked to call her one time at bed time and I told him he could call her the next day, which he never asked so I didnt go out of my way. So when she finally called, she started asking them why they hadnt called her and he told her he would ask and no one would let him. This set her off big time and she started fussing and cussing at DH telling him that SS's should not have to ask to use phone and should be able to pick it up and call who they want.
She recently sent me an ugly email as well. I have chosen to ignore her, at first I was going to respond by signing a warrant but changed my mind. I will just ignore her and let her believe she doesn't make me want to wring her neck.